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What’s better? To be a couple? Or to be single? The both have their advantages and disadvantages. Here’s what you had to say . . . First, the best parts of being single . . . “Not having to answer to anyone for what I spend.” “Remodeling the house without having to argue over how it will be done or who will do it.” “Being able to go to bed early without feeling guilty.” “Not having to watch my husband spend $400 on a gun and then yell at me for spending $29 on a blouse.” “Peace and quiet when … ]]> Fri, 19 Sep 2014 17:34:01 -0500 http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/29830369-452/best-of-being-married-being-single.html http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/29830369-452/best-of-being-married-being-single.html <![CDATA[ When pets come between lovers ]]> Lead story image

When it comes down to “One of us has to go, Rover or me,” don’t hold your breath. When a pet comes between a man and a woman, Rover usually wins. “Drew’s mother said to me when we started dating, ‘If he treats you half as well as his dog, you’ve got it made,’ ” Joanne recalls. “Unfortunately, I never got much of a chance to compare our treatment. The first night I was in his apartment, I started sneezing. An allergy I didn’t know I had apparently was brought on by Drew’s sheepdog. “Things started to go bad after … ]]> Mon, 15 Sep 2014 14:22:00 -0500 http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/29830365-452/when-pets-come-between-lovers.html http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/29830365-452/when-pets-come-between-lovers.html <![CDATA[ Blind dates gone bad ]]> Lead story image

Most blind dates turn out to be disasters, but every now and then . . . SARAH: “I spent the first year I was separated from my husband going nowhere except with my kids.  Finally, needing some adult conversation (I’m a special ed teacher), I went online looking to meet people.  In June, I posted asking for a lunch companion. “A guy responded and we ended up agreeing to meet for dinner. He turned out to be one of the most fascinating people I have ever met!  We walked around after dinner, sat on some steps and talked until the wee … ]]> Fri, 19 Sep 2014 17:34:01 -0500 http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/29830359-452/blind-dates-gone-bad.html http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/29830359-452/blind-dates-gone-bad.html <![CDATA[ A love that takes over two decades to blossom ]]> Lead story image

If at first you don’t succeed, hang in there. It took Clay about 22 years and three tries to finally get what he wanted. Sometimes it just takes a woman a long time to make up her mind. Clay and Danielle first met when she was 15. He was 17 and her best friend’s brother. “I liked him, but there was nothing romantic,” Danielle says. Danielle became a high school senior and Clay went into the Army. His sister — Danielle’s best friend — suggested she write to him. They started corresponding, and when Clay came home on leave he … ]]> Thu, 04 Sep 2014 23:47:10 -0500 http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/29692371-452/a-love-that-takes-over-two-decades-to-blossom.html http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/29692371-452/a-love-that-takes-over-two-decades-to-blossom.html <![CDATA[ Sometime love creeps up on you ]]> Lead story image

Girls grow up reading love stories that start with electricity, fireworks, bells, banjos. Your mother tells you that you’ll “know” when it’s right. But how will you know? What if the earth doesn’t move? Then you get older and people start telling you that electricity comes and goes. That the quiet messages are the ones to pay attention to. That making love last has little to do with the Fourth of July. So what’s a person to think? Here are your thoughts . . . SOPHIA: “There are no rules in the game of love, but I feel people too … ]]> Thu, 04 Sep 2014 23:47:19 -0500 http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/29692369-452/sometime-love-creeps-up-on-you.html http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/29692369-452/sometime-love-creeps-up-on-you.html <![CDATA[ Should she have seen the brush-off coming? ]]> Lead story image

Callie thought she was going on a date, but the cabbie bought her dinner and gave her the brush-off. Why? Here’s what you think . . . VIRGINIA: I think Seth is already in a committed relationship and was checking out what else was available. I’d like to think he suffered an attack of conscience 30 minutes into the meal, realized what a jerk he was being, and cut the evening short to go home and repent. But I suspect Seth realized he was about to get caught with the wrong person. Maybe he saw a mutual (and gossipy) acquaintance … ]]> Fri, 05 Sep 2014 16:26:00 -0500 http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/29692365-452/should-she-have-seen-the-brush-off-coming.html http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/29692365-452/should-she-have-seen-the-brush-off-coming.html <![CDATA[ A love that takes over two decades to blossom ]]> Lead story image

If at first you don’t succeed, hang in there. It took Clay about 22 years and three tries to finally get what he wanted. Sometimes it just takes a woman a long time to make up her mind. Clay and Danielle first met when she was 15. He was 17 and her best friend’s brother. “I liked him, but there was nothing romantic,” Danielle says. Danielle became a high school senior and Clay went into the Army. His sister — Danielle’s best friend — suggested she write to him. They started corresponding, and when Clay came home on leave he … ]]> Thu, 04 Sep 2014 23:47:10 -0500 http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/29692371-452/a-love-that-takes-over-two-decades-to-blossom.html http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/29692371-452/a-love-that-takes-over-two-decades-to-blossom.html <![CDATA[ Sometime love creeps up on you ]]> Lead story image

Girls grow up reading love stories that start with electricity, fireworks, bells, banjos. Your mother tells you that you’ll “know” when it’s right. But how will you know? What if the earth doesn’t move? Then you get older and people start telling you that electricity comes and goes. That the quiet messages are the ones to pay attention to. That making love last has little to do with the Fourth of July. So what’s a person to think? Here are your thoughts . . . SOPHIA: “There are no rules in the game of love, but I feel people too … ]]> Thu, 04 Sep 2014 23:47:19 -0500 http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/29692369-452/sometime-love-creeps-up-on-you.html http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/29692369-452/sometime-love-creeps-up-on-you.html <![CDATA[ Flat tire, miserable date and true love ]]> Lead story image

Today we hear from DEVON and SUZANNE, who opine on the nature of love and runny noses . . . — DEVON: “Why is it that first loves die such a long, horrible death? I was 17 when we met; he was 20. We had a hot and heavy summer romance, then he went to back to school. He invited me down for a weekend, then called at 2 in the morning and told me not to come. He said he’d come up instead. I knew something was wrong. He had met another girl. When he walked into my house, … ]]> Fri, 18 Jul 2014 17:30:05 -0500 http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/28733431-452/flat-tire-miserable-date-and-true-love.html http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/28733431-452/flat-tire-miserable-date-and-true-love.html <![CDATA[ Single folks: All you need is one good pickup line ]]> Lead story image

Ivy has been on the receiving end of some of the absolute worst lines ever. And also the single best one ever spoken. ]]> Mon, 09 Jun 2014 12:42:00 -0500 http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/27914978-452/single-folks-all-you-need-is-one-good-pickup-line.html http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/27914978-452/single-folks-all-you-need-is-one-good-pickup-line.html <![CDATA[ When opposites attract and it works ]]> Lead story image

“Has anyone ever told you you look exactly like Demi Moore?” When Chelsea heard that line, she just about lost it. She was at a singles dance, an experience she found slightly more revolting than a freshman mixer. But Chelsea had just moved to the city, where she didn’t know a soul, so when she saw an ad for the party she went with the highest of hopes. She was so disappointed. One clod after another crossed her path. When she heard the “Demi Moore” line, she was ready to say, “Stuff it,” grab her coat and leave. But she … ]]> Wed, 04 Jun 2014 15:16:00 -0500 http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/27775802-452/when-opposites-attract-and-it-works.html http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/27775802-452/when-opposites-attract-and-it-works.html <![CDATA[ Tales from the Front: When shopping, you never know what’s in store ]]> Lead story image

Next time you’re shopping in a department store, look around you. You’re standing in the middle of 21st century “Peyton Place”! Mattie was a salesperson in men’s fragrances. She and a group of employees, men and women, would hang out together. They had lunch together, went on breaks together, made plans for after-work and weekends. Connor, her boss, was part of the group. After several of these friendly get-togethers, he made it clear that he’d like to be more than just friends. Mattie made it just as clear that she didn’t want to get involved. She had already had some … ]]> Tue, 03 Jun 2014 21:54:00 -0500 http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/27817461-452/tales-from-the-front-when-shopping-you-never-know-whats-in-store.html http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/27817461-452/tales-from-the-front-when-shopping-you-never-know-whats-in-store.html <![CDATA[ Tales from the Front: He got quite an education in night school ]]> Lead story image

You can learn a lot in night school. Luke learned what not to do — never, ever — when you meet someone you like. Luke was immediately attracted to Brinn, another student in his adult education class. He says she had “a wholesome Irish face, intelligence, no apparent emotional baggage and a positive attitude.” Still, he waited till the last week of class to invite her for coffee. “We talked for an hour,” says Luke. The next night he called and asked her out. Sorry. She was going out of town during spring vacation. When she returned, flowers were waiting … ]]> Mon, 02 Jun 2014 21:08:20 -0500 http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/27817462-452/tales-from-the-front-he-got-quite-an-education-in-night-school.html http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/27817462-452/tales-from-the-front-he-got-quite-an-education-in-night-school.html <![CDATA[ Tales from the Front: They do bring her flowers ]]> Lead story image

There are flowers and there are flowers. And the day that Riley got a dozen long-stemmed red roses from Cody with a card saying “Just because I love you,” and from Arnie a pathetic bunch of semi-wilted grocery store carnations, she realized there are men and there are men. Riley was fixed up with Arnie, a divorced dad with custody of his two kids. “I liked him,” says Riley. “He seemed intelligent. We went to different kinds of places and did unusual things, but his emotional highs and lows and his temper really started to eat at me. “And he … ]]> Mon, 02 Jun 2014 21:08:35 -0500 http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/27817473-452/tales-from-the-front-they-do-bring-her-flowers.html http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/27817473-452/tales-from-the-front-they-do-bring-her-flowers.html