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Traci seemed to have a sixth sense for finding men who treated her badly, and now it was starting to look like Joe was another one. The whole summer between their junior and senior years in college, he made excuses about why he couldn’t see her: He had to baby-sit, he had to run an errand for his folks. And in the end it turned out that the real reason he couldn’t see her all those times was because he was dating a 15-year-old lifeguard. Then school started again and he was just as bad. He ignored their anniversary. He … ]]> Mon, 28 Jul 2014 11:02:01 -0500 http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/28809402-452/mr-wrong-steers-her-to-mr-right.html http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/28809402-452/mr-wrong-steers-her-to-mr-right.html <![CDATA[ May-December romance flames out ]]> Lead story image

Vicky was 42, a human services specialist for the government, when she discovered Ian, 29, a bank officer. ]]> Fri, 25 Jul 2014 14:22:00 -0500 http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/28809392-452/may-december-romance-flames-out.html http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/28809392-452/may-december-romance-flames-out.html <![CDATA[ It took time, but she finally figured out he was the one ]]> Lead story image

Jessica was involved in one of those “Is this a romance or are we really just friends?” situations. She was in dental school at the time, and she hung out with a group of about 10 students, all future dentists, doctors and lawyers. They’d go out for pizza together, take in a movie, go ice skating, watch the fireworks on the Fourth of July. They all lived in the same complex and there was an easy flow between the apartments. Charlie was part of the group. He was in medical school, “kind of quiet, but when he did have something … ]]> Fri, 18 Jul 2014 17:25:17 -0500 http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/28733428-452/it-took-time-but-she-finally-figured-out-he-was-the-one.html http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/28733428-452/it-took-time-but-she-finally-figured-out-he-was-the-one.html <![CDATA[ She let man of her dreams get away ]]> Lead story image

THE ONE WHO GOT AWAY Lola, despite her name that evokes show girls and other sexy minxes, had never been very popular with boys. She didn’t date in high school or college, she wasn’t much for parties or clubs. After graduation, she shared an apartment with a friend and got a job in a nursing home. One summer night, her college sorority was having a reunion with their brother fraternity. She was sitting alone, outside on the porch. A young man walked up to her and started talking. He was short with thick glasses, but he had “the most beautiful … ]]> Fri, 18 Jul 2014 17:20:07 -0500 http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/28733418-452/she-let-man-of-her-dreams-get-away.html http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/28733418-452/she-let-man-of-her-dreams-get-away.html <![CDATA[ Flat tire, miserable date and true love ]]> Lead story image

Today we hear from DEVON and SUZANNE, who opine on the nature of love and runny noses . . . — DEVON: “Why is it that first loves die such a long, horrible death? I was 17 when we met; he was 20. We had a hot and heavy summer romance, then he went to back to school. He invited me down for a weekend, then called at 2 in the morning and told me not to come. He said he’d come up instead. I knew something was wrong. He had met another girl. When he walked into my house, … ]]> Fri, 18 Jul 2014 17:30:05 -0500 http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/28733431-452/flat-tire-miserable-date-and-true-love.html http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/28733431-452/flat-tire-miserable-date-and-true-love.html <![CDATA[ Have you ever been dumped for a loser? ]]> Lead story image

All of us have been dumped. But for whom? Women, do you get booted for someone who is obviously more credentialed than you— a former Miss America who has a degree in nuclear physics, anchors the evening news and visits shut-ins in her spare time— or a no-class, no-job, no-looks tramp? Men, do you get “Hit the road, Jack” for a brain surgeon with the sex appeal of George Clooney and a hint of the boyish charm of Brad Pitt? Or an alcoholic bum who’s living in the back seat of his car? JACEE: “My husband was 49, I was … ]]> Wed, 16 Jul 2014 10:40:00 -0500 http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/28605183-452/have-you-ever-been-dumped-for-a-loser.html http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/28605183-452/have-you-ever-been-dumped-for-a-loser.html <![CDATA[ He regrets not addressing ‘perfect’ woman ]]> Lead story image

There are split-seconds in life when you either make a move or you don’t. And if you don’t, you wind up kicking yourself in the pants for a very long time. Meet Brandon. The seat of his pants is very dirty. A couple of weeks ago, Brandon, 32, was on jury duty — juror number 1252. There was a gray-haired woman sitting next to him. And on the other side of her was a woman whom Brandon can only describe as “perfect.” He couldn’t take his eyes off her. Nor could he make a move. They sat in the room … ]]> Mon, 14 Jul 2014 09:46:00 -0500 http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/28605169-452/he-regrets-not-addressing-perfect-woman.html http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/28605169-452/he-regrets-not-addressing-perfect-woman.html <![CDATA[ Her confidence allows husband to see old flames without problems ]]> Lead story image

Confidence, your name must be Peyton. Twice she’s met her husband’s old true loves under very trying circumstances, and twice she has survived them with barely a twinge, not even a little bitty pull, of jealousy. The first time was when she and her husband, Jim, had been married just under two years. Jim and Diana had dated during his junior year in college. They had almost gotten married, but their relationship ended abruptly. Their feelings didn’t, though. Throughout the remainder of his college days, a tour in Afghanistan and several moves, Jim carried her 8-by-10 picture in a foot … ]]> Fri, 11 Jul 2014 23:04:00 -0500 http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/28605161-452/her-confidence-allows-husband-to-see-old-flames-without-problems.html http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/28605161-452/her-confidence-allows-husband-to-see-old-flames-without-problems.html <![CDATA[ Shy dater should watch woman’s body language ]]> Lead story image

Aaron is the young, single, nice-looking, guy who recently wrote in. He’s the one who worries about how the date should end almost before it begins. Should he kiss His date goodnight? Yes? No? If yes, then where? If no, then when? And if yes, then what kind of a kiss should it be? A brotherly peck? A tonsil check? Something in-between? Mick knows just what he’s going through . . . MICK: Aaron’s dating questions and issues remind me of when I was younger. I had a second date with a woman. On the first date, I didn’t make … ]]> Thu, 03 Jul 2014 23:31:30 -0500 http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/28468628-452/shy-dater-should-watch-womans-body-language.html http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/28468628-452/shy-dater-should-watch-womans-body-language.html <![CDATA[ Other Woman says affair saved lover’s marriage ]]> Lead story image

Abbie has been both the woman and The Other Woman. And she says switching roles every now and then can teach a woman a lot. She’s 34 and she married when she was just 19. “I did a lot of complaining,” she says, “a lot of nagging. There was a lot of ‘Why can’t you pick your dirty socks and underwear off the floor?’ ‘Why can’t you take out the trash?’ ‘You and your friends drink too much beer and watch too many football games,’ ‘You never notice me.’ I wasn’t satisfied to just let him be.” She says her … ]]> Thu, 03 Jul 2014 23:38:55 -0500 http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/28468618-452/other-woman-says-affair-saved-lovers-marriage.html http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/28468618-452/other-woman-says-affair-saved-lovers-marriage.html <![CDATA[ Storybook romance starts in Irish castle ]]> Lead story image

A few years ago, Lucy and Jason found themselves in the same tourist office in Ireland. They were each buying a ticket for that evening’s banquet at a restored 15th-Century castle complete with a drawbridge and a drafty, eerie, romantic air. Lucy had been in Ireland for a year, working as a nanny. Jason had been in the country for two weeks, biking. “This sounds like one of those God awful Gothic romances: The small-town governess meets the well-to-do businessman in a romantic old castle in Europe,” Lucy says. “But it’s all true.” Luck struck up a conversation with Jason … ]]> Thu, 03 Jul 2014 23:35:36 -0500 http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/28468515-452/storybook-romance-starts-in-irish-castle.html http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/28468515-452/storybook-romance-starts-in-irish-castle.html <![CDATA[ At times, you just know it’s over ]]> Lead story image

Sometimes you hear it directly: “I just don’t think this is working . . .” But sometimes you don’t. And that’s when you have to read the tea leaves, consult the stars, and interpret those little signals to figure out if a relationship is over. \Here’s how you learned your relationship was dead in the water . . . “. . . she sent me a note asking me to return a paperback book she had lent me and she enclosed a stamped, self-addressed envelope to mail it in.” “. . . my fiancé phoned me from the hospital to … ]]> Thu, 03 Jul 2014 23:26:03 -0500 http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/28325712-452/at-times-you-just-know-its-over.html http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/28325712-452/at-times-you-just-know-its-over.html <![CDATA[ Reckless lover spreads STDs ]]> Lead story image

Morgan was in a committed relationship with Jon for three years. They didn’t live together, but spent up to five nights a week together. She had a good job and made decent money. Jon was a partner in a law firm and made six times what she made. “That was OK,” she says, “He was very generous.”  When it came to sex, Jon insisted that it was intercourse, only, nothing fancy. Morgan went along with it “because he was a great guy in every other way.” One day Jon had a dental appointment. When he got there, the dentist refused … ]]> Mon, 30 Jun 2014 13:26:00 -0500 http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/28325679-452/reckless-lover-spreads-stds.html http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/28325679-452/reckless-lover-spreads-stds.html <![CDATA[ Teenage sweethearts reconnect after four decades ]]> Lead story image

When we met Francis, in 2010, he had reconnected, via Google, with his high school sweetheart, Harper. The last time he had seen her, they were both 18 and he was headed to Vietnam. She broke up with him shortly before he shipped out. He wondered about her for 40 years, even though he’d been happily married for 35 of them. The first time he tried googling her, he found a 90-year-old lady with the same name. Then he tried her name and occupation. She’d been so sure about her life’s work he knew she’d still be involved in it, … ]]> Thu, 26 Jun 2014 20:58:32 -0500 http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/28325673-452/teenage-sweethearts-reconnect-after-four-decades.html http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/28325673-452/teenage-sweethearts-reconnect-after-four-decades.html <![CDATA[ Single folks: All you need is one good pickup line ]]> Lead story image

Ivy has been on the receiving end of some of the absolute worst lines ever. And also the single best one ever spoken. ]]> Mon, 09 Jun 2014 12:42:00 -0500 http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/27914978-452/single-folks-all-you-need-is-one-good-pickup-line.html http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/27914978-452/single-folks-all-you-need-is-one-good-pickup-line.html <![CDATA[ When opposites attract and it works ]]> Lead story image

“Has anyone ever told you you look exactly like Demi Moore?” When Chelsea heard that line, she just about lost it. She was at a singles dance, an experience she found slightly more revolting than a freshman mixer. But Chelsea had just moved to the city, where she didn’t know a soul, so when she saw an ad for the party she went with the highest of hopes. She was so disappointed. One clod after another crossed her path. When she heard the “Demi Moore” line, she was ready to say, “Stuff it,” grab her coat and leave. But she … ]]> Wed, 04 Jun 2014 15:16:00 -0500 http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/27775802-452/when-opposites-attract-and-it-works.html http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/27775802-452/when-opposites-attract-and-it-works.html <![CDATA[ Tales from the Front: When shopping, you never know what’s in store ]]> Lead story image

Next time you’re shopping in a department store, look around you. You’re standing in the middle of 21st century “Peyton Place”! Mattie was a salesperson in men’s fragrances. She and a group of employees, men and women, would hang out together. They had lunch together, went on breaks together, made plans for after-work and weekends. Connor, her boss, was part of the group. After several of these friendly get-togethers, he made it clear that he’d like to be more than just friends. Mattie made it just as clear that she didn’t want to get involved. She had already had some … ]]> Tue, 03 Jun 2014 21:54:00 -0500 http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/27817461-452/tales-from-the-front-when-shopping-you-never-know-whats-in-store.html http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/27817461-452/tales-from-the-front-when-shopping-you-never-know-whats-in-store.html <![CDATA[ Tales from the Front: He got quite an education in night school ]]> Lead story image

You can learn a lot in night school. Luke learned what not to do — never, ever — when you meet someone you like. Luke was immediately attracted to Brinn, another student in his adult education class. He says she had “a wholesome Irish face, intelligence, no apparent emotional baggage and a positive attitude.” Still, he waited till the last week of class to invite her for coffee. “We talked for an hour,” says Luke. The next night he called and asked her out. Sorry. She was going out of town during spring vacation. When she returned, flowers were waiting … ]]> Mon, 02 Jun 2014 21:08:20 -0500 http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/27817462-452/tales-from-the-front-he-got-quite-an-education-in-night-school.html http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/27817462-452/tales-from-the-front-he-got-quite-an-education-in-night-school.html