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In the movies they call it a “cute meet.” ]]> Wed, 16 Apr 2014 14:36:00 -0500 http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/26768472-452/chance-encounters-elicit-longtime-romances.html http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/26768472-452/chance-encounters-elicit-longtime-romances.html <![CDATA[ Can a woman cure her ex-husband’s mid-life crisis ]]> Lead story image

Dear Cheryl, My husband of 24 years and I divorced six weeks ago, with a decent degree of civility and warm feelings. Last week, much to my surprise, he informed me and our twenty-year-old daughter, that he’s getting married in two weeks to a woman he met recently. She’s 20 years his junior and has never left her native Thailand. She will be moving to the U.S> soon, leaving behind her own daughter, her family, and the only culture she’s ever known. On the one hand, I’m very glad that I’m no longer married to this man, who seems patently … ]]> Mon, 14 Apr 2014 16:32:09 -0500 http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/26768457-452/can-a-woman-cure-her-ex-husbands-mid-life-crisis.html http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/26768457-452/can-a-woman-cure-her-ex-husbands-mid-life-crisis.html <![CDATA[ Endless relationship going nowhere ]]> Lead story image

Sometimes you don’t get the whole pie. Sometimes you don’t even get a full slice. Sometimes the only thing on your plate is a couple of crumbs and you just have to make do. Liam met Madison in a bar. He was 34 at the time and kind of a drifter. She was 26 and pretty much the same. She had a 6-year-old daughter but no husband. Just a good-for-nothing ex-boyfriend. She was unemployed, living off her daughter’s A.D.C. checks. Liam and Madison started hanging out. A month after they met, Madison moved in. She was having trouble making her … ]]> Sun, 06 Apr 2014 23:43:54 -0500 http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/26644055-452/endless-relationship-going-nowhere.html http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/26644055-452/endless-relationship-going-nowhere.html <![CDATA[ Headline goes here and here ]]> Lead story image

Sometimes you can sum up a relationship in just a sentence or two. Here are some of those sentences . . . ◆ “After my divorce I lost 10 pounds, bought new clothes and had a make-over. A co-worker said, ‘Looks like the property’s back on the market.’ “ ◆ “I’m 47 and I asked out this woman who’s 28, 29 years old. She said, ‘Don’t you think I’m too young for you?’ I said, ‘No. But obviously I’m too old for you.’ “ ◆ “What happened to the old-fashioned burger, Coke and mini-golf date? I can’t afford to spend … ]]> Sun, 06 Apr 2014 23:39:35 -0500 http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/26644038-452/headline-goes-here-and-here.html http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/26644038-452/headline-goes-here-and-here.html <![CDATA[ Widower finally realizes, he was The Other Man ]]> Lead story image

Jack was The Other Man. He was a widower and he found himself heavily involved with a very married woman. “It’s one of those rarely acknowledged situations,” says the 49-year-old CPA. “You always hear about The Other Woman, but you don’t hear much about men in my circumstance. Maybe it’s because it’s not something many men want to brag about.” Like many Other Women, Jack was ready to believe whatever Carol told him. He believed her when she said she loved him. He believed when she said she would leave her husband. Just give her time. “When I would press … ]]> Mon, 31 Mar 2014 09:48:00 -0500 http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/26497139-452/widower-finally-realizes-he-was-the-other-man.html http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/26497139-452/widower-finally-realizes-he-was-the-other-man.html <![CDATA[ He wants old married life back, not new single one ]]> Lead story image

When Dave’s wife of 27 years left, his friends told him he was in for the time of his life. He was a highly eligible bachelor. Women, they told him, were going to fall into his lap and into his bed. But the truth of it is, Dave doesn’t want women falling anywhere near him. He wants his wife back. It all started when Lesley said she wanted to attend college after all these years at home. She had always seemed so happy with the life he had provided for her, Dave says. They had two lovely children. “Out of … ]]> Mon, 31 Mar 2014 09:12:00 -0500 http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/26497090-452/he-wants-old-married-life-back-not-new-single-one.html http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/26497090-452/he-wants-old-married-life-back-not-new-single-one.html <![CDATA[ You learn a lot dining on a date ]]> Lead story image

Where did the first caveman take the first cavewoman on their first date? It must have been to dinner— maybe a nice mastodon steak with a side of ferns. Eating and dating have always gone together. JESSA: I’ve got eating in a restaurant when I’m on a date down to a science. I gauge my nervousness and, depending on how I feel, I determine whether I can order something requiring utensils. If I’m really jittery, I worry about shaking, so I order a hamburger or something I can eat with my hands. I’ve ordered soft drinks and never taken a … ]]> Mon, 24 Mar 2014 11:10:00 -0500 http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/26364509-452/you-learn-a-lot-dining-on-a-date.html http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/26364509-452/you-learn-a-lot-dining-on-a-date.html <![CDATA[ Sometimes even the savviest dater falls for a line ]]> Lead story image

You’d think if you met a man on J-Date, he’d be Jewish. If you met a woman on Christian Mingle, she’d be Christian. If you met a man at a singles event, he’d be single. Lucy was at a singles dance, being hassled by what she dismissed as “creeps and losers.” She declined their invitations to dance and stood alone, radiating boredom and annoyance, when she felt that sensation you get when someone is staring at you. She turned around to see a man she calls “an absolutely gorgeous preppie-looking hunk.” The man with his eye on her was Tram … ]]> Mon, 24 Mar 2014 11:04:00 -0500 http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/26364432-452/sometimes-even-the-savviest-dater-falls-for-a-line.html http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/26364432-452/sometimes-even-the-savviest-dater-falls-for-a-line.html <![CDATA[ Romantic vacation took a bad turn south ]]> Lead story image

For the first few days at least, the vacation was shaping up as a Rocky Mountain high. Travis flew to Denver with Ava, his girlfriend for six glorious months. The trip was one of those wonderful, spontaneous things in life. Let’s go someplace. Where? Denver! Why not? So there they were, driving up mountain roads, exploring quaint restored gold mines. The food was good, the high-altitude air invigorating, the hotel fine. They were having such a good time they even thought about extending the trip for a few days to get in some spring skiing. But there also was the … ]]> Mon, 24 Mar 2014 10:32:00 -0500 http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/26364361-452/romantic-vacation-took-a-bad-turn-south.html http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/26364361-452/romantic-vacation-took-a-bad-turn-south.html <![CDATA[ She cheated, he cheated — now what? ]]> Lead story image

Dear Cheryl: I have a problem, and I probably know exactly what you’re going to say, but here I go anyway. Two and a half years ago I cheated on my boyfriend Chance with a married man I worked with. Chance and I had been together for four years with no engagement, not even any serious talk of marriage. In fact, things were really going downhill when Scott started working at my job. He was attractive and nice, but most of all he paid attention to me. After months of being friends, Scott made a pass at me and I went … ]]> Tue, 18 Mar 2014 16:15:06 -0500 http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/26027089-452/she-cheated-he-cheated-now-what.html http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/26027089-452/she-cheated-he-cheated-now-what.html <![CDATA[ Sometimes a simple marriage proposal is best ]]> Lead story image

People make such a big deal out of proposals. I’ve heard of “Will you marry me?” in skywriting. Rings baked into cakes. Strolling violinists. But sometimes, a simple “Waddaya think?” works just fine ... ]]> Tue, 18 Mar 2014 16:15:07 -0500 http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/25896706-452/sometimes-a-simple-marriage-proposal-is-best.html http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/25896706-452/sometimes-a-simple-marriage-proposal-is-best.html <![CDATA[ What he might first need is date with therapist ]]> Lead story image

Two men find dating has a lot of challenges. ]]> Tue, 18 Mar 2014 16:15:07 -0500 http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/25896664-452/what-he-might-first-need-is-date-with-therapist.html http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/25896664-452/what-he-might-first-need-is-date-with-therapist.html <![CDATA[ Love springs up in unlikeliest place ]]> Lead story image

… ]]> Tue, 18 Mar 2014 16:15:07 -0500 http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/25577109-452/love-springs-up-in-unlikeliest-place.html http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/25577109-452/love-springs-up-in-unlikeliest-place.html <![CDATA[ Long and winding path to Mr. Right ]]> Lead story image

Maggie is 5 feet 6 and 245 pounds, down from her personal high of 298 pounds. She calls herself “Rubenesque” in her online profiles. Even so, men frequently are not prepared for her. She and Dex met online, starting emailing and had a warm, friendly half-hour chat. They made a date to meet at a Starbucks near her house. She said she would be wearing black slacks, a white blouse and a red jacket. He said he’d be the one in the blue blazer. When she arrived, he was reading a book. “He looked up and then turned away as … ]]> Tue, 18 Mar 2014 16:15:07 -0500 http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/25577046-452/long-and-winding-path-to-mr-right.html http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/25577046-452/long-and-winding-path-to-mr-right.html <![CDATA[ Sometimes sign is clear that relationship is over ]]> Lead story image

I just read a survey that said that 22 percent of people have been dumped on Valentine’s Day. Does Hallmark make a card that says, “Roses are red/Violets are blue/Happy Valentine’s Day/I’m over you.” Here are some of the other ways you’ve learned it was over . . . . . . he started taking the dog for long walks at night. After showering. . . . when Nick Newman on “Y and R” was more important to her than I was, even on vacation. . . . when I had to sit alone in the back seat of the … ]]> Tue, 18 Mar 2014 16:15:07 -0500 http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/25408286-452/sometimes-sign-is-clear-that-relationship-is-over.html http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/25408286-452/sometimes-sign-is-clear-that-relationship-is-over.html <![CDATA[ She’s tired of dating fixer-uppers ]]> Lead story image

You know how some women love a project? A closet to do- over. A friend to make-over. A bathroom to remodel. Well, Olivia was one of those non-stop do-it-yourselfers. But it her case, the project wasn’t a room or a house. It was men. “I have straightened up, molded, educated, reformed, enlightened and motivated my last nine serious boyfriends,” the 38-year-old says. “And I’m tired.” Olivia says she was drawn to men who would be great, if only . . . The “if only” usually involved sprucing them up in some form or another. With some of her old boyfriends, … ]]> Tue, 18 Mar 2014 16:15:07 -0500 http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/25408281-452/shes-tired-of-dating-fixer-uppers.html http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/25408281-452/shes-tired-of-dating-fixer-uppers.html <![CDATA[ Playing mom didn’t make her his wife ]]> Lead story image

It’s one thing to fall in love with an older man. It’s another to fall in love with his kids, too. When Ava was a 21-year-old college student, she became involved with Derrick, a 37-year-old engineer with two kids. One minute she was struggling with English literature, the next with Derrick’s 2-year-old daughter, trying to change her diapers in the locker room at the neighborhood pool. “I was really scared,” Ava says. “I hadn’t been with kids very much before, and I was jumping right into it. I was scared that if it didn’t work out with the kids, it … ]]> Tue, 18 Mar 2014 16:15:07 -0500 http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/25408279-452/playing-mom-didnt-make-her-his-wife.html http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/25408279-452/playing-mom-didnt-make-her-his-wife.html <![CDATA[ Three decades of comments sum up relationships ]]> Lead story image

I’ve culled nearly 30 years of “Tales from the Front” columns to find those comments that really seem to sum up what relationships are all about . . . “He can call me in the middle of the night, come over at 3 a.m., tell me he loves me and how empty his life would be without me. But if I call him on a Sunday and say, ‘I’m lonely. What are you doing?’ — that’s pressuring him.” “One of the first things I thought of when I got divorced was, ‘Who am I going to be buried next to?’ … ]]> Tue, 18 Mar 2014 16:15:08 -0500 http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/25286443-452/three-decades-of-comments-sum-up-relationships.html http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/lavin/25286443-452/three-decades-of-comments-sum-up-relationships.html