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FROM THE HART: Aging seems all too natural. And if it can happen to my dad, it really can happen to anyone. ]]> Sun, 30 Sep 2012 06:02:18 -0600 http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/hart/14400511-452/we-see-our-own-mortality-as-a-parent-ages.html http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/hart/14400511-452/we-see-our-own-mortality-as-a-parent-ages.html <![CDATA[ Does backing tradition really equal hate? ]]> Lead story image

BETSY HART: Certain people seem to be playing a game of chicken. The question is, how hard are such folks willing to press the pedal to the metal? What does “blinking” from the other players look like to them? ]]> Sun, 09 Sep 2012 06:05:42 -0600 http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/hart/14187064-423/does-backing-tradition-really-equal-hate.html http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/hart/14187064-423/does-backing-tradition-really-equal-hate.html <![CDATA[ The problem with personalized vows ]]> Lead story image

So let’s get personal. About personally worded wedding vows, that is. Here’s a real-world example from Brides.com (edited for space): From a bride, to her groom: You have made me feel moreloved than I ever thought possible . I choose you today. And I would choose you again tomorrow. I would go on choosing you the day after, and every day for the rest of our lives. From a groom to his bride: So what have I to offer you?The promise to take you as my only love from this day forward, and to embark on a journey full of … ]]> Sun, 02 Sep 2012 06:04:44 -0600 http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/hart/14021043-452/the-problem-with-personalized-vows.html http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/hart/14021043-452/the-problem-with-personalized-vows.html <![CDATA[ Marriages matters to the kids involved ]]> Lead story image

BETSY HART: Just last week I had a young local reporter interview me and ask, as if he thought it were a quaint idea that might be fun to explore, “You write about marriage a good bit, but just why is it you think marriage is so important?” Here’s why. ]]> Sun, 26 Aug 2012 06:04:42 -0600 http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/hart/13871298-452/marriages-matters-to-the-kids-involved.html http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/hart/13871298-452/marriages-matters-to-the-kids-involved.html <![CDATA[ The lessons kids (and parents) need to learn ]]> Lead story image

Of course, the bottom line is that thinking in terms of balance and shaping— whether in character traits or life lessons — requires something of us as parents. ]]> Tue, 17 Jul 2012 11:44:00 -0600 http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/hart/13737417-452/the-lessons-kids-and-parents-need-to-learn.html http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/hart/13737417-452/the-lessons-kids-and-parents-need-to-learn.html <![CDATA[ Wanting it all and getting little satisfaction ]]> Lead story image

The fallout from the essay “Why Women Still Can’t Have It All” in the current Atlantic Magazine is still loudly echoing in the blogosphere. But for the most part, the cacophony of voices in response has rung as hollow as the original piece. In her essay, Anne-Marie Slaughter wrote that, as a very successful middle-aged woman, she’s heard from young professional women that they don’t want to make the tradeoffs that she did to have a career and kids. Moreover, she says, it makes sense to her. They’ve seen how high the price is. She essentially laments the reality that … ]]> Sun, 12 Aug 2012 06:08:54 -0600 http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/hart/13605902-452/wanting-it-all-and-getting-little-satisfaction.html http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/hart/13605902-452/wanting-it-all-and-getting-little-satisfaction.html <![CDATA[ Dawn Loggins’ story a great reminder for my own parenting ]]> Lead story image

We parents are too often terrified of letting our kids face disappointment, and letting them figure out that they will actually live in spite of it. ]]> Mon, 18 Jun 2012 13:48:00 -0600 http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/hart/13265681-452/story.html http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/hart/13265681-452/story.html <![CDATA[ Dawn Loggins’ story a great reminder for my own parenting ]]> Lead story image

We parents are too often terrified of letting our kids face disappointment, and letting them figure out that they will actually live in spite of it. ]]> Mon, 18 Jun 2012 13:48:00 -0600 http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/hart/13265661-452/story.html http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/hart/13265661-452/story.html <![CDATA[ Dawn Loggins’ story a great reminder for my own parenting ]]> Lead story image

We parents are too often terrified of letting our kids face disappointment, and letting them figure out that they will actually live in spite of it. ]]> Sat, 21 Jul 2012 06:05:43 -0600 http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/hart/13203480-452/dawn-loggins-story-a-great-reminder-for-my-own-parenting.html http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/hart/13203480-452/dawn-loggins-story-a-great-reminder-for-my-own-parenting.html <![CDATA[ Drinking for two: Time to lighten up a little on alcohol and pregnancy ]]> Lead story image

BETSY HART: Now before I get deluged by readers horrified that I would write a “pro-baby mama and drinking” column, take a chill pill, as my kids would say. ]]> Sun, 05 Aug 2012 06:08:17 -0600 http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/hart/13484970-452/drinking-for-two-time-to-lighten-up-a-little-on-alcohol-and-pregnancy.html http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/hart/13484970-452/drinking-for-two-time-to-lighten-up-a-little-on-alcohol-and-pregnancy.html <![CDATA[ Planning a wedding a little different this time ]]> Lead story image

Joining a life with another, perhaps especially at our ages and certainly with all our children (eight), is no small undertaking. The most important things, the preparations for our marriage itself, are taking place more or less behind the scenes. Ironically, to me, what quickly takes center stage, though really it lasts only a moment, is the wedding day itself. ]]> Sat, 14 Jul 2012 06:07:26 -0600 http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/hart/13042446-452/planning-a-wedding-a-little-different-this-time.html http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/hart/13042446-452/planning-a-wedding-a-little-different-this-time.html <![CDATA[ Getting a second chance at first love ]]> Lead story image

There are no games with Tom. He let me know from the beginning that he was “all in,” that he was courting me. That’s the definition of “manly,” in my dictionary. ]]> Sat, 07 Jul 2012 08:03:34 -0600 http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/hart/12893084-452/getting-a-second-chance-at-first-love.html http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/hart/12893084-452/getting-a-second-chance-at-first-love.html <![CDATA[ Not all women want to climb the corporate ladder ]]> Lead story image

Women often freely choose to say “no, thanks,” sometimes after they’ve gotten to the top itself (at work). And that’s a problem, say these authors. But a problem for whom? ]]> Sun, 17 Jun 2012 08:04:54 -0600 http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/hart/12450333-452/not-all-women-want-to-climb-the-corporate-ladder.html http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/hart/12450333-452/not-all-women-want-to-climb-the-corporate-ladder.html <![CDATA[ The commencement speech you won’t hear ]]> Lead story image

BETSY HART: I admired Steve Jobs and love my Mac products as much as the next person. But throughout this [commencement] speech, Jobs was almost an avatar for the extreme individualism that has come to rule our age and, I would argue, leads to misery more than contentment. ]]> Sun, 10 Jun 2012 08:05:29 -0600 http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/hart/12315075-452/the-commencement-speech-you-wont-hear.html http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/hart/12315075-452/the-commencement-speech-you-wont-hear.html <![CDATA[ Why Betsy Hart hates this TV commercial ]]> Lead story image

BETSY HART: This commercial, and the culture it represents, is so pathetic. It’s not that it depicts reality. It’s that it’s depicting a “reality” that isn’t real at all. ]]> Thu, 26 Apr 2012 12:43:27 -0600 http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/hart/11732672-452/why-betsy-hart-hates-this-tv-commercial.html http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/hart/11732672-452/why-betsy-hart-hates-this-tv-commercial.html <![CDATA[ Big difference between what we want and truly need ]]> Lead story image

How often are we guilty in our relationships of turning our desires into our needs? I heard a pastor friend speak wisely about this very thing lately in connection to our relationship with God. ]]> Tue, 27 Mar 2012 11:04:49 -0600 http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/hart/11464830-452/big-difference-between-what-we-want-and-truly-need.html http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/hart/11464830-452/big-difference-between-what-we-want-and-truly-need.html <![CDATA[ Married man tells the story of his affair ]]> Lead story image

I hadn’t yet shared a story of a man who had been involved in an affair — in this case, one who almost lost his decades-long marriage over it. Meet “Mike.” Mike wrote me a beautiful letter after he saw my most recent column on “Denise.” I receive many such notes from people kindly sharing their stories with me, and I always appreciate them., but this one stood out. ]]> Fri, 23 Mar 2012 08:05:38 -0600 http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/hart/10684524-452/married-man-tells-the-story-of-his-affair.html http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/hart/10684524-452/married-man-tells-the-story-of-his-affair.html <![CDATA[ Women ask for too much and settle for too little ]]> Lead story image

What so few women seem to insist upon, though, is a real suitor. A good man wants the woman he loves to know that she is wanted. Whether or not there are flowers or love notes involved, it will simply be natural for him to make sure she is secure in his honest intentions of marriage for her. ]]> Fri, 16 Mar 2012 08:03:46 -0600 http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/hart/10537727-452/women-ask-for-too-much-and-settle-for-too-little.html http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/hart/10537727-452/women-ask-for-too-much-and-settle-for-too-little.html