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D ear Abby: In short, my son is a klutz — to the point that it affects his self-confidence. He’s different from everyone else in the family. Is being a klutz genetic? Is it permanent? He’s not doing well academically, either. How can I help him? Parent Who Cares Dear Parent: One way to help your son would be to stop other family members from making fun of him and labeling him as a klutz. When people laugh and ridicule others, it makes them only more self-conscious and more clumsy. Another way to help would be to have him examined … ]]> Tue, 29 Jul 2014 02:15:45 -0500 http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/abby/28269504-452/clumsy-son-needs-to-see-specialists.html http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/abby/28269504-452/clumsy-son-needs-to-see-specialists.html <![CDATA[ They trash others, hide own problems ]]> Lead story image

Dear Abby: My husband’s family are hypocrites! They talk about everyone and their problems, yet when something arises in their family, they want it kept hush-hush. My sister-in-law, “Gina,” had a baby recently. Her husband, “Allan,” was suspicious because their sexual relations had stopped years ago. He did a store-bought DNA test (twice) and realized the baby was not his. When he confronted her, she wouldn’t tell him who the father is, but said she had discussed the pregnancy with the father, and they had decided it would be best for her to raise the baby as her husband’s. Well, … ]]> Tue, 29 Jul 2014 08:38:25 -0500 http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/abby/28269505-452/they-trash-others-hide-own-problems.html http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/abby/28269505-452/they-trash-others-hide-own-problems.html <![CDATA[ Creepy man in park may be harmless ]]> Lead story image

Dear Abby: I am a woman in my 30s. Every morning I walk my dog in the park near my house. Each morning I see the same maintenance man in the park and he stares at me in a way that makes me uncomfortable. I have tried saying “Good morning,” but he doesn’t reply and just continues to stare. I don’t think I should have to stop frequenting the park because this creepy man works there. Is there a way I can confront him about his staring without making the situation more uncomfortable? — Dog Walker in San Francisco Dear … ]]> Fri, 25 Jul 2014 12:58:03 -0500 http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/abby/28269502-452/creepy-man-in-park-may-be-harmless.html http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/abby/28269502-452/creepy-man-in-park-may-be-harmless.html <![CDATA[ Son-in-law’s father emotionally abusive ]]> Lead story image

Dear Abby: I adore my son-in-law, “Tom.” He’s a wonderful husband to our daughter. He’s always inviting us to dinner along with his parents and family. We get along with them but can’t stand how they treat Tom. We have never seen parents treat their children the way they treat him — especially the father. Tom is practically begging for his approval and attention on a daily basis. The last time we had dinner together, you could see the hurt and embarrassment on Tom’s face after his father spoke to him. I desperately want to say something to the father, … ]]> Sun, 27 Jul 2014 19:00:57 -0500 http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/abby/28269503-452/son-in-laws-father-emotionally-abusive.html http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/abby/28269503-452/son-in-laws-father-emotionally-abusive.html <![CDATA[ Teen worried about life after high school ]]> Lead story image

Dear Abby: I am an 18-year-old high school senior who is scared about what’s going to happen after graduation. For the past three years I have known exactly where I’ll be and what I will be doing in the general sense. Now that I have one more year to go, I’m worried that I won’t know what to do or how to do it when I graduate. I have talked to counselors and my dad, but they all say the same thing. Do you have any advice? — Uneasy in Idaho Dear Uneasy: Sit down someplace quiet and make a … ]]> Fri, 25 Jul 2014 15:15:55 -0500 http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/abby/28269500-452/teen-worried-about-life-after-high-school.html http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/abby/28269500-452/teen-worried-about-life-after-high-school.html <![CDATA[ Mom lets son, 6, get away with tantrums ]]> Lead story image

D ear Abby: When my friend “Fran” and I get together with our kids, they often play games on her cellphone until the battery dies. If she tries to take the phone from her 6-year-old to make a call or recharge the phone, he starts yelling at her, pushes her, pulls her skirt and hits her. Her reaction is to hug him and start praying for the devil to get out of his body in Jesus’ name as he continues to hit her. While I respect Fran’s religion, I’m appalled at his violent behavior, concerned that he will grow up … ]]> Fri, 25 Jul 2014 02:20:54 -0500 http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/abby/28269498-452/mom-lets-son-6-get-away-with-tantrums.html http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/abby/28269498-452/mom-lets-son-6-get-away-with-tantrums.html <![CDATA[ Dog OK at wedding if couple fine with it ]]> Lead story image

D ear Abby: Is it acceptable to bring a teacup-sized dog to a wedding? The excuse was, “Well, the wedding was at the beach.” The pre-dinner and dancing were inside a high-end resort on the beach. The dog was taken inside these establishments. After a guest — a family member of the dog’s owner — asked the owner to remove the animal because the occasion was not about her and her dog but the bride and groom’s day, the owner put the dog in a carrying case and the dog returned to the wedding for the rest of the night. … ]]> Thu, 24 Jul 2014 02:17:58 -0500 http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/abby/28331581-452/dog-ok-at-wedding-if-couple-fine-with-it.html http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/abby/28331581-452/dog-ok-at-wedding-if-couple-fine-with-it.html <![CDATA[ Abused 2-year-old needs counseling ]]> Lead story image

Dear Abby: My granddaughter “Cindy,” age 2, was being watched by her mommy’s ex-sister-in-law and her sons. Cindy went to her mommy and said, “Bubby hurt me.” Bubby is what she calls her 10-year-old cousin. Her mother called the police. A policeman spoke to her and said there wasn’t enough evidence. Now my granddaughter is scared of men. The police went and talked to the cousin who said he “accidentally touched her down there with her pull-up on.” DCFS was called in, and again it was a man. We took Cindy to a female doctor and Cindy told the doctor … ]]> Thu, 24 Jul 2014 19:23:05 -0500 http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/abby/28269495-452/abused-2-year-oldneeds-counseling.html http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/abby/28269495-452/abused-2-year-oldneeds-counseling.html <![CDATA[ Varied approaches to handling money ]]> Lead story image

Dear Readers: On April 11, I printed a letter from “Wondering in Washington,” a man asking why young men in general today have the attitude that “any money I earn is mine” in a marriage or live-in situation. He said when he married, he and his wife considered what they earned to be “theirs” — not his or hers. When I asked my “younger readers” to chime in, I was inundated. Some excerpts: Dear Abby: My husband was 26 and I was 24 when we got married. To me, how young couples handle money says a lot about their attitude … ]]> Thu, 24 Jul 2014 19:22:52 -0500 http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/abby/28269494-452/varied-approaches-to-handling-money.html http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/abby/28269494-452/varied-approaches-to-handling-money.html <![CDATA[ Finding Mr. Right likely to take time ]]> Lead story image

Dear Abby: I am a young woman hoping to find “The One.” But I have come to realize that I’m not the normal female. I don’t get manicures or go shopping. (I hate shopping!) When I meet a guy, he likes that I’m “me,” but if we get serious, then I’m either “too independent,” “too outspoken” or “not girly enough.” I don’t want to change myself or pretend to be someone I’m not. One minute they like that I’m independent and can fend for myself; the next they don’t like that I don’t depend on them to pay bills, etc. … ]]> Thu, 24 Jul 2014 19:22:40 -0500 http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/abby/28269493-452/finding-mr-right-likely-to-take-time.html http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/abby/28269493-452/finding-mr-right-likely-to-take-time.html <![CDATA[ Can’t stand heat, makes excuses ]]> Lead story image

Dear Abby: I am, once again, faced with my annual dilemma. I cannot tolerate heat and humidity. I become short of breath, my heart pounds and I perspire profusely. I recover immediately if I go into an air-conditioned area. I have discussed this with doctors. They attribute it to my “thermostat” and the fact that I am a very fair-skinned redhead. My mother had the same problem. Of course, I stay in air-conditioned places. The problem arises when we’re invited to cookouts or to the home of someone whose place isn’t air-conditioned. I don’t know how to explain that I … ]]> Thu, 24 Jul 2014 19:22:25 -0500 http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/abby/28269490-452/cant-stand-heat-makes-excuses.html http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/abby/28269490-452/cant-stand-heat-makes-excuses.html <![CDATA[ Boring parents are not unusual ]]> Lead story image

Dear Abby: Neither of my parents do anything for fun. When Dad comes home from work, he either reads the newspaper or takes a nap. If Mom has free time after finishing the housework or running errands, she watches the news on TV or goes to bed early. I never thought it was unusual because it has been this way since I was growing up. But once I was in high school, I started hearing classmates talk about their parents’ friends or hobbies and I realized my parents are different. They don’t even listen to music or read books. When … ]]> Thu, 24 Jul 2014 19:22:04 -0500 http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/abby/28269484-452/boring-parentsare-not-unusual.html http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/abby/28269484-452/boring-parentsare-not-unusual.html <![CDATA[ Creative idea for engagement ring ]]> Lead story image

D ear Abby: On July 26, 2011, you posted an answer to “Jittery Future Bride in Boston.” I am that woman. I had asked you how to get my boyfriend of five years to use my deceased grandmother’s ring as an engagement ring. I followed your advice and told my boyfriend-at-the-time that I wanted to use a family ring. I spoke with my father about it and checked with my sister to see if she would mind if I used it. We got engaged seven months ago, and my now-husband told me he had been hoping to take the stone … ]]> Thu, 17 Jul 2014 02:21:44 -0500 http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/abby/28269478-452/creative-idea-for-engagement-ring.html http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/abby/28269478-452/creative-idea-for-engagement-ring.html <![CDATA[ How to tell teens about facts of life ]]> Lead story image

D ear Abby: Help! My daughter just turned 13, and I need to discuss the facts of life with her. I don’t know where to start. My mom told me absolutely nothing, and I know my daughter needs to be educated in a simple but very understandable way — especially in these times. Do you still have your booklet that gives teens answers to questions on sex? I need ideas on how to approach this. Nervous Mom in Illinois Dear Nervous Mom: Because many parents find the subject of sex embarrassing, they postpone discussing it with their children. When “the … ]]> Wed, 16 Jul 2014 02:19:27 -0500 http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/abby/28269477-452/how-to-tell-teens-about-facts-of-life.html http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/abby/28269477-452/how-to-tell-teens-about-facts-of-life.html <![CDATA[ Boy must be told father a molester ]]> Lead story image

Dear Abby: I am a mother of four. My oldest son, “Jeff,” is from a previous marriage. My ex was convicted of child molestation, involving his daughter from a previous relationship. Jeff is now 11. He has had very few unsupervised visitations with his dad over the last few years and is always talking about how great a guy he is. I have tried to explain that his father has done “inappropriate things” that got him in trouble with the law, which is why he can’t have contact with his sister. Instead of trusting my judgment for having moved several … ]]> Thu, 24 Jul 2014 19:21:47 -0500 http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/abby/28269472-452/boy-must-be-told-father-a-molester.html http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/abby/28269472-452/boy-must-be-told-father-a-molester.html <![CDATA[ Parents must teach girl boundaries ]]> Lead story image

Dear Abby: We were visiting my daughter and her husband when their 3-year-old, “Bethany,” entered our room and rummaged through our medications. The door to the guest room was closed and the medications had been placed on a desk. Of course, everyone thought she had ingested some, so they rushed her to the ER. We were fortunate that nothing was found in her system. My son-in-law thinks we should help pay the medical bills. I have sent several hundred dollars, but he is asking for more. Bethany is an only child, and they allow her free reign of the house. … ]]> Thu, 24 Jul 2014 19:21:27 -0500 http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/abby/28269471-452/parents-must-teach-girl-boundaries.html http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/abby/28269471-452/parents-must-teach-girl-boundaries.html <![CDATA[ Girl wise to resist pressure to date ]]> Lead story image

Dear Abby: I’m a 14-year-old girl in middle school. I have never seriously dated anyone, and the one time I did I felt trapped. My friends think it’s weird that I have never dated a guy and they call me a lesbian. I just want to finish my schoolwork and wait until high school to start dating. I don’t want to feel weighed down by anyone. Is there something wrong with me? — Confused in S. Carolina Dear Confused: Something wrong with you? Good grief, no! In fact, I would go so far as to say there is something right … ]]> Thu, 24 Jul 2014 19:20:40 -0500 http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/abby/28269469-452/girl-wise-to-resist-pressure-to-date.html http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/abby/28269469-452/girl-wise-to-resist-pressure-to-date.html <![CDATA[ Husband lies about having paid bills ]]> Lead story image

Dear Abby: My husband and I have been married for 19 years. We have had our ups and downs, but the last few months have been hell. My husband lies about having paid bills. When I ask, “Have you paid the rent?” I mean “in full,” not a partial payment. We have now been evicted for nonpayment of rent and are living in a hotel. Utilities have been cut off because of his partial payments and his lying about their having been paid in full, and I’m tired of it. It’s not just the two of us who have been … ]]> Thu, 24 Jul 2014 19:21:03 -0500 http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/abby/28269470-452/husband-lies-about-having-paid-bills.html http://www.suntimes.com/lifestyles/abby/28269470-452/husband-lies-about-having-paid-bills.html