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Dear Abby: I am an 18-year-old high school senior who is scared about what’s going to happen after graduation. For the past three years I have known exactly where I’ll be and what I will be doing in the general sense. Now that I have one more year to go, I’m worried that I won’t know what to do or how to do it when I graduate. I have talked to counselors and my dad, but they all say the same thing. Do you have any advice? — Uneasy in Idaho Dear Uneasy: Sit down someplace quiet and make a … ]]> Fri, 25 Jul 2014 15:15:55 -0500 <![CDATA[ Mom lets son, 6, get away with tantrums ]]> Lead story image

D ear Abby: When my friend “Fran” and I get together with our kids, they often play games on her cellphone until the battery dies. If she tries to take the phone from her 6-year-old to make a call or recharge the phone, he starts yelling at her, pushes her, pulls her skirt and hits her. Her reaction is to hug him and start praying for the devil to get out of his body in Jesus’ name as he continues to hit her. While I respect Fran’s religion, I’m appalled at his violent behavior, concerned that he will grow up … ]]> Fri, 25 Jul 2014 02:20:54 -0500 <![CDATA[ Dog OK at wedding if couple fine with it ]]> Lead story image

D ear Abby: Is it acceptable to bring a teacup-sized dog to a wedding? The excuse was, “Well, the wedding was at the beach.” The pre-dinner and dancing were inside a high-end resort on the beach. The dog was taken inside these establishments. After a guest — a family member of the dog’s owner — asked the owner to remove the animal because the occasion was not about her and her dog but the bride and groom’s day, the owner put the dog in a carrying case and the dog returned to the wedding for the rest of the night. … ]]> Thu, 24 Jul 2014 02:17:58 -0500 <![CDATA[ Abused 2-year-old needs counseling ]]> Lead story image

Dear Abby: My granddaughter “Cindy,” age 2, was being watched by her mommy’s ex-sister-in-law and her sons. Cindy went to her mommy and said, “Bubby hurt me.” Bubby is what she calls her 10-year-old cousin. Her mother called the police. A policeman spoke to her and said there wasn’t enough evidence. Now my granddaughter is scared of men. The police went and talked to the cousin who said he “accidentally touched her down there with her pull-up on.” DCFS was called in, and again it was a man. We took Cindy to a female doctor and Cindy told the doctor … ]]> Thu, 24 Jul 2014 19:23:05 -0500 <![CDATA[ Varied approaches to handling money ]]> Lead story image

Dear Readers: On April 11, I printed a letter from “Wondering in Washington,” a man asking why young men in general today have the attitude that “any money I earn is mine” in a marriage or live-in situation. He said when he married, he and his wife considered what they earned to be “theirs” — not his or hers. When I asked my “younger readers” to chime in, I was inundated. Some excerpts: Dear Abby: My husband was 26 and I was 24 when we got married. To me, how young couples handle money says a lot about their attitude … ]]> Thu, 24 Jul 2014 19:22:52 -0500 <![CDATA[ Finding Mr. Right likely to take time ]]> Lead story image

Dear Abby: I am a young woman hoping to find “The One.” But I have come to realize that I’m not the normal female. I don’t get manicures or go shopping. (I hate shopping!) When I meet a guy, he likes that I’m “me,” but if we get serious, then I’m either “too independent,” “too outspoken” or “not girly enough.” I don’t want to change myself or pretend to be someone I’m not. One minute they like that I’m independent and can fend for myself; the next they don’t like that I don’t depend on them to pay bills, etc. … ]]> Thu, 24 Jul 2014 19:22:40 -0500 <![CDATA[ Can’t stand heat, makes excuses ]]> Lead story image

Dear Abby: I am, once again, faced with my annual dilemma. I cannot tolerate heat and humidity. I become short of breath, my heart pounds and I perspire profusely. I recover immediately if I go into an air-conditioned area. I have discussed this with doctors. They attribute it to my “thermostat” and the fact that I am a very fair-skinned redhead. My mother had the same problem. Of course, I stay in air-conditioned places. The problem arises when we’re invited to cookouts or to the home of someone whose place isn’t air-conditioned. I don’t know how to explain that I … ]]> Thu, 24 Jul 2014 19:22:25 -0500 <![CDATA[ Boring parents are not unusual ]]> Lead story image

Dear Abby: Neither of my parents do anything for fun. When Dad comes home from work, he either reads the newspaper or takes a nap. If Mom has free time after finishing the housework or running errands, she watches the news on TV or goes to bed early. I never thought it was unusual because it has been this way since I was growing up. But once I was in high school, I started hearing classmates talk about their parents’ friends or hobbies and I realized my parents are different. They don’t even listen to music or read books. When … ]]> Thu, 24 Jul 2014 19:22:04 -0500 <![CDATA[ Creative idea for engagement ring ]]> Lead story image

D ear Abby: On July 26, 2011, you posted an answer to “Jittery Future Bride in Boston.” I am that woman. I had asked you how to get my boyfriend of five years to use my deceased grandmother’s ring as an engagement ring. I followed your advice and told my boyfriend-at-the-time that I wanted to use a family ring. I spoke with my father about it and checked with my sister to see if she would mind if I used it. We got engaged seven months ago, and my now-husband told me he had been hoping to take the stone … ]]> Thu, 17 Jul 2014 02:21:44 -0500 <![CDATA[ How to tell teens about facts of life ]]> Lead story image

D ear Abby: Help! My daughter just turned 13, and I need to discuss the facts of life with her. I don’t know where to start. My mom told me absolutely nothing, and I know my daughter needs to be educated in a simple but very understandable way — especially in these times. Do you still have your booklet that gives teens answers to questions on sex? I need ideas on how to approach this. Nervous Mom in Illinois Dear Nervous Mom: Because many parents find the subject of sex embarrassing, they postpone discussing it with their children. When “the … ]]> Wed, 16 Jul 2014 02:19:27 -0500 <![CDATA[ Boy must be told father a molester ]]> Lead story image

Dear Abby: I am a mother of four. My oldest son, “Jeff,” is from a previous marriage. My ex was convicted of child molestation, involving his daughter from a previous relationship. Jeff is now 11. He has had very few unsupervised visitations with his dad over the last few years and is always talking about how great a guy he is. I have tried to explain that his father has done “inappropriate things” that got him in trouble with the law, which is why he can’t have contact with his sister. Instead of trusting my judgment for having moved several … ]]> Thu, 24 Jul 2014 19:21:47 -0500 <![CDATA[ Parents must teach girl boundaries ]]> Lead story image

Dear Abby: We were visiting my daughter and her husband when their 3-year-old, “Bethany,” entered our room and rummaged through our medications. The door to the guest room was closed and the medications had been placed on a desk. Of course, everyone thought she had ingested some, so they rushed her to the ER. We were fortunate that nothing was found in her system. My son-in-law thinks we should help pay the medical bills. I have sent several hundred dollars, but he is asking for more. Bethany is an only child, and they allow her free reign of the house. … ]]> Thu, 24 Jul 2014 19:21:27 -0500 <![CDATA[ Girl wise to resist pressure to date ]]> Lead story image

Dear Abby: I’m a 14-year-old girl in middle school. I have never seriously dated anyone, and the one time I did I felt trapped. My friends think it’s weird that I have never dated a guy and they call me a lesbian. I just want to finish my schoolwork and wait until high school to start dating. I don’t want to feel weighed down by anyone. Is there something wrong with me? — Confused in S. Carolina Dear Confused: Something wrong with you? Good grief, no! In fact, I would go so far as to say there is something right … ]]> Thu, 24 Jul 2014 19:20:40 -0500 <![CDATA[ Husband lies about having paid bills ]]> Lead story image

Dear Abby: My husband and I have been married for 19 years. We have had our ups and downs, but the last few months have been hell. My husband lies about having paid bills. When I ask, “Have you paid the rent?” I mean “in full,” not a partial payment. We have now been evicted for nonpayment of rent and are living in a hotel. Utilities have been cut off because of his partial payments and his lying about their having been paid in full, and I’m tired of it. It’s not just the two of us who have been … ]]> Thu, 24 Jul 2014 19:21:03 -0500 <![CDATA[ No need to share RV cash with son ]]> Lead story image

D ear Abby: For years, my wife and I were RV enthusiasts. We have a son who was envious about our lifestyle and expressed a desire to own an RV and travel the highways. When we decided to give up the practice, we gave our travel trailer to him as a gift. The trailer has been sitting on his property for more than a year now and has never been moved. He has kept the license and insurance fees current. He recently told us he has changed his mind and is no longer interested in traveling with it. He has … ]]> Fri, 18 Jul 2014 02:18:21 -0500 <![CDATA[ She’s upset parents skip graduations ]]> Lead story image

Dear Abby: When I was a child, my parents skipped my elementary school graduation. For that matter, everyone did. My grandfather had just died, so Mom was mourning his loss. Fast-forward a few years — nobody attended my junior high graduation, either. Granted, Mom had a couple of stitches in her nose because my brother had accidentally hit her with a golf club the week before. Well, my younger siblings just graduated from elementary school, and my parents have again skipped the event because of their work schedules. A mix of emotions is resurfacing for me. I’m angry and frustrated. … ]]> Thu, 24 Jul 2014 19:20:20 -0500 <![CDATA[ Say no to friend who asks too much ]]> Lead story image

Dear Abby: My best friend is getting married and asked me to be her maid of honor. She has also asked me to buy an expensive dress, host a lavish shower I’m afraid I can’t afford and plan a destination bachelorette party. The cost will be exorbitant. On top of this, she has asked me to be her “cover” when she lies to her fiance about where she is. She has admitted to me that she has cheated on him, and I think she’s doing it again. I know it’s not my place to question her or tell her what … ]]> Thu, 24 Jul 2014 19:19:36 -0500 <![CDATA[ Teens need to know about contraception ]]> Lead story image

Dear Abby: My 19-year-old son has been dating the daughter of one of my friends I’ll call “Mona.” We didn’t set them up; they met at some parties. Last summer we discovered they were having sex because “Meghan” thought she was pregnant. Luckily, it turned out she wasn’t. They broke up but have gotten back together recently. When I asked Mona if she was putting Meghan on birth control, Mona said that she wouldn’t because “that would be letting her know it’s OK to have sex.” I said, “Better safe than sorry!” and we left it at that. I let … ]]> Thu, 24 Jul 2014 19:17:47 -0500