Q. I was born Nov. 23, 1988, at 6:22 p.m. I have trouble making a commitment. I feel that my standards are so high that I fail to see the good in the people I date.

I can’t seem to figure out what kind of guy I should be with. I feel lost when it comes to love.

A. You were born with your natal Saturn in an area of your chart that deals with relationships; therefore, you are indeed critical and set high standards when it comes to relationships. This isn’t necessarily a bad thing, but it can limit your options regarding love and marriage.

Your chart indicates you do best with partners who are quite a bit older or younger than you. You learn from older men, and you can train younger men.

With your natal Uranus sitting alongside your natal Saturn, you tend to have a change of heart and walk away before things can heat up.

You match up well to the signs Sagittarius, Aries, Gemini, Leo and Libra, but considering your past record, you should have an astrological comparison cast before you judge a potential candidate.

Perhaps if you are aware of someone’s flaws right from the beginning, you can learn to live with your partner’s shortcomings. After all no one is perfect — including you.

Q. A few months ago, my husband told me he wants out of our marriage of 11 years. It’s like he woke up and decided that he didn’t love me anymore. He recently admitted that he’s been having an affair with someone 20 years younger than him.

Since I discovered his infidelity, he’s become depressed and confused. I, on the other hand, am disgusted, and I don’t have the strength to forgive him. Is it time to move on, or should I try to hold things together? I was born June 5, 1975, at 5:20 p.m.

A. For starters, you neglected to give me your husbands birth data so I’d say that pretty much sums up the forgive and forget aspect of your relationship.

Your chart indicates you are moving into a period geared toward getting what you deserve legally and settling your affairs with this man so you can move on.

After that, you will move into a period of personal growth, learning, travel and experiencing what life has to offer. Start dating again and doing things that interest you. Look forward, not back. Most importantly, don’t let what has happened between you and your ex jade you. You’ve got a lot of life miles left to travel.

Universal Syndicate