Common: No such thing as a cool dad
By COMMON Daily Splash columnist June 14, 2012 9:54PM
Updated: July 16, 2012 6:19AM
Growing up can be rough. You know what else can be rough? Being a grown-up watching your child grow up. Who knew that being a dad would be filled with so much anxiety? I often tell myself that with my guidance, my daughter will be able to find her own way; that I won’t be able to control everything.
I wanted to be the cool dad. I mean after all, I’m an MC! I create music that’s empowered an entire generation. But now that my daughter is a teen, I’ve learned there’s no such thing as a cool dad. My daughter doesn’t care about how I rocked the crowd the previous night or who I met (unless it’s one of her favorites). She wants to make sure that I’m not going to embarrass her at a school function or around her friends.
As I watch her grow, I’m realizing that I need to be there for her. Not to guide and teach as much as to listen and learn. I’m always amazed at how much she teaches me; how she reminds me of what’s important; that in the end, time is all we have. How we choose to spend that time is a conscious choice we make each day.
Being a dad is more than just paying bills and giving instructions. It’s about setting an example of excellence, being present and being OK when you make a mistake within the realm of parenting.
Would there be things I’d do differently? I’m not sure because every time I see her, she’s more amazing than the time before.
For all the awesome dads out there: Happy Father’s Day!
Common donated his $1,000 fee for writing this column to his foundation, the Common Ground Foundation.