Updated: July 28, 2012 6:02AM
Q. I am an Aquarius female, and I am in a relationship with a Gemini male. We have a very hot-and-cold relationship. The main issue is that he is much younger than me. Our age difference doesn’t bother him, and he says he is ready for a commitment. The problem is he is bipolar, and I am always the victim of his mood swings. He has damaged my home in his bouts of rage and has also broken my heart twice by cheating with younger women.
I want to know if this relationship can work. His birthday is June 17, 1993, and mine is Jan. 24, 1979, at 7:31 p.m.
A. The comparison is workable, but only because you are a glutton for punishment. With your natal Moon-Venus-Neptune conjunction adversely positioned to your natal Saturn, you can use astrological help when it comes to making life choices regarding love and your domestic life. Your chart indicates that you are likely to end up pregnant and feeling stuck if you don’t move on now.
Your Gemini friend will do just fine once he latches on to someone else who is willing to put up with his deceit and his mood swings. His chart indicates that he was born with anger-management issues that are not likely to change even with psychotherapy.
Please do not entertain the thought of having children with this partner. If you cannot bring yourself to leave this abusive situation that’s your prerogative, but don’t inflict it on the innocent.
Q. I met a nice guy. I’m 39, and he’s almost 41. I’ve expressed my desire for marriage and kids, and he expressed the same thing. He was born March 4, 1971, at 11:05 a.m., and I was born Sept. 18, 1972, at 3 p.m. I’m worried about his Gemini ascendant as I know they tend to be wanderers. Could this finally be the man with whom I will have children?
A. I’m actually more concerned with the three planets your Pisces man has in Sagittarius than the late Gemini ascendant. With his natal Jupiter conjunct his natal Neptune adversely positioned to his natal Mercury conjunct to his natal Sun, he may have a propensity to say what he thinks you want to hear. However, there is something about the comparison that does pull you together, and the fact that you met when you are both more mature gives this relationship greater potential to go the distance.
The physical connection is splendid, and although it lacks a bit mentally, I believe you have a karmic connection to each other that must be played to the end. The karma may result in you having a child together.