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She did everything right, but things went wrong

Did you ever do everything right and it still came out wrong?

A teacher only dates on weekends when he doesn’t have his kids

Many of you had concerns about Greg, the 43-year-old teacher with custody of his kids. He only dates every other weekend when his kids are with their mother. He’s getting serious about Joy and you had reservations.

Dating, marriage can be challenges for single parents

Some things just don’t mix. Chocolate and sardines. Caramels and dentures. Children and dating. Should you introduce your kids to your date? If so, when? What if you remarry? What role will your new spouse play in your kids’ lives? Parent? Friend? Boarder? Here are …

Adjusting to the realities of male, female and other

The recent column about Jackie who was born a male but always felt she was a female has started a discussion about transgenders. Your thoughts ... MACI: My tween daughter signed up for a computer course which asked for her gender. The choices were Male, …

  • Ivy Leaguers not always the smartest

    Does an Ivy League education mean you’re smart? Not necessarily.

  • Interact with lover on regular basis before committing

    Greg was the divorced teacher with custody of his kids. He dated only every other weekend when his ex-wife had the children. He’s currently dating a woman and thinking of marrying her.

  • 20 years out of the closet

    September 26 will mark the 20th anniversary of Britney’s coming out as gay. Before that, she wasn’t really in the closet — she didn’t lead a double life — but she did fight her orientation.

  • Three strikes but not out

    Greg is the 43-year-old divorced man with custody of his kids. He’s the teacher with the 9-year-old minivan with suspicious stains on the carpet. He’s the one who can’t get a date once women find out The Big Three: kids, teacher, minivan.

    As times change, transgenders more comfortable living out in the open

    As society becomes more liberal, there’s one group that’s starting to poke a foot out the closet: transgenders. A real-life transgender actress plays a transgender inmate Netflix’s “Orange is the New Black.” “Glee” had a transgender character. There were transgender characters on “Dirty Sexy Money,” …

    Strike three and this guy is out

    Greg is a 43-year-old divorced man. He’s 6-foot-5 and takes good care of himself. He says, “I’ve been complimented many times on my looks and healthy lifestyle.” And he can’t get a date.

    Smarts are OK, smart attitude is not

    We recently heard from I Can’t Help it if I’m too Succesful, a Harvard-educated single woman, 36, who said she “intimidated” most men because she was more successful than them. Here’s what readers had to say.

    About to divorce, mom isn’t sure when to start dating

    Dear Cheryl, I’m getting divorced soon. I’ve got a 3-year-old and a 5-year-old. I intend to start dating as soon as my soon-to-be-ex moves out of the house. I’m a working mom and don’t have a lot of free time. I like to spend as …

    Taking time to make sure potential stepdad’s a good guy

    CHERYL LAVIN: Today’s column is about stepfathers, potential stepfathers and a famous flasher.

    When ending a relationship, a serial dater looks for the complete opposite in a match

    Opposites attract when it comes to potential mates for a reader.

    She thinks success is thwarting search for love

    Dear Cheryl: I’m a single woman, never married, 36. I’d love to meet my soul mate and marry. I haven’t felt this way all my life. In my 20s and early 30s, I was busy completing my education and starting my career. Now that my …

    Could you spot a potential abuser?

    CHERYL LAVIN: A mom wants to know, can you always tell a potential child abuse? A mom who’s been there gives a troubling reply.

  • Abuse secret draws sharp responses

    CHERYL LAVIN: Recently we heard from a mom whose oldest son, 31, recently confided in her that his male cousin (her sister’s son) had molested him when he was a child. The only reason he told her was she wanted the two of them to live together. He swore her to secrecy and refused therapy.