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She almost left a good man

The only problem with Karl was that he was completely self-absorbed and totally unable to commit.

Other than that, he was perfect.

He was Swiss with a Ph.D. He had a sexy accent and was extremely handsome and bright. Cassie loved him.

Except she couldn’t break through to him.

“Karl was one of those people who was so appealing because he was kind of cool,” Cassie says. “He was a scientist. He had all the walls up and I think he could have lived without people. But I thought I was the woman who was going to warm him up and help him adapt to the world.”

Karl would never tell Cassie he loved her. He signed cards “L---, Karl.” He said love didn’t exist.

Their real problems began soon after she moved 1,000 miles to live with him. He wanted her to do everything around the house while he spent his time thinking. They fought about everything and broke up every two weeks.

“It was a clash of cultures,” she says. “In Switzerland women were only given the right to vote in the 1970s. That ought to tell you something right there.”

Still, Cassie was in love and for a long time she convinced herself this battling was normal. But when the lease was up, Karl announced that he was moving out of town and she wasn’t invited. So Cassie — heartbroken — moved back home.

After she’d been home about 10 months she met Rory in a bar. He was in the Army and 7 years younger. He had absolutely none of Karl’s solid-gold credentials. But Cassie began dating him and he treated her like a queen — “flowers, dinner, unconditional love.” However, she kept in touch with Karl and made plans to see him that summer during her vacation.

When Rory found out about the trip he was devastated. He had heard about Karl, but he thought the relationship was over, except for that big box of letters and souvenirs Cassie kept under her bed. Still, he told Cassie that he would be there for her if she still wanted him after the vacation.

Finally, Cassie flew off to visit Karl. He looked fabulous. Cassie felt awkward with him, but she assumed that feeling would pass. She was in love with him! He was perfect!

Except that things weren’t so perfect.

“All he could talk about was his running and his swimming,” Cassie says. “As time went on he became more and more withdrawn. He looked great on the beach, but he was lying there completely ignoring me.”

By dinner of the first day Karl had stopped talking altogether.

“I realized I had made one of the worst mistakes of my life,” Cassie says. Back home was a man who totally loved her, who fit into her life so naturally. What was she doing, chasing after a cold, selfish Swiss scientist? They had an enormous argument, and a day into the reunion Cassie flew home and back to Rory. There wasn’t a question in his mind about forgiving her. They’ve been together ever since.

“Even now it scares me how close I came to losing him,” Cassie says. “I almost threw it away.”

What are some of the creative ways you’ve been rejected? Send your tale, along with your questions, problems and rants to cheryllavinrapp@gmail.com. And check out my new ebook, “Dear Cheryl: Advice from Tales from the Front.” COPYRIGHT 2014 CREATORS.COM



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