A newsy peek into relationships
BY CHERYL LAVIN November 3, 2013 5:30PM
Updated: November 6, 2013 6:00PM
It seems every news article and study on dating, relationships, marriage, divorce, cheating, breaking up and making up crosses my computer. Here’s a look at my inbox . . .
A KISS ISN’T JUST A KISS
Trick question: Which activity is a better indicator of the happiness of a committed couple: more kissing or more sex? According to researchers at Oxford University, it’s more kissing. It’s more intimate. Who knew?
Hollywood, that’s who. Take “The Good Wife,” who hasn’t been so good in seasons past. The New York Times reports that series co-creator Michelle King thinks about when and how her characters kiss a lot.
“We put more emphasis on kissing than sex,” she said. “We treat it as though it has more emotional import.” Take Alicia Florrick, who has an on-again/off-again relationship with her husband Peter. “You see Alicia having sex with Peter more frequently and recreationally than kissing him.”
But newlyweds Diane Lockhart and Kurt McVeigh kiss all the time. “There’s a soulful connection there, and the kissing is more conventionally romantic.”
INFIDELITY AS SUBSTITUE FOR DIVORCE?
This is according to a survey commissioned by VictoriaMilan.com, the infidelity website that dares to ask: “Trapped in a monotonous relationship? Miss feeling passion and excitement?”
According to more than 2,000 members, having an affair might be keeping their marriages together.
Sheryl, 39, of Seattle, is one of those satisfied customers. Says Sheryl, “Victoria Milan saved my marriage! Now I have a fantastic sex life, a loving, caring and happy life with my lovely husband.”
THE BREAKUP EMAIL IS NOT A (JERK) MOVE
According to the Pew Research Center, as we become more comfortable starting relationships online, we also become more comfortable ending them that way.
Among daters under 30, 22 percent have broken up by text, email or online message. I guess the handwriting was on the Post-It when Carrie Bradshaw got dumped via a two-sentence sticky note: “I’m sorry, I can’t. Don’t hate me.”
A breakup to a dating relationship is one thing. But Britney Spears and Russell Brand both told their spouses they wanted out via the Internet.
DIVORCED PEOPLE MORE LIKELY TO DIE FROM PREVENTABLE ACCIDENTS THAN MARRIED PEOPLE
This study is from Rice University and the University of Pennsylvania. It says divorced people, single people, and people with less education are more fatal-accident prone than married people. These preventable fatal accidents include fire, poisoning and smoke inhalation.
One of the study’s authors says, “It stands to reason that if social relationships and socio-economic resources prolong life, then they should be more important in situations where death can reasonably be avoided.”
SINGLES SAY ‘BOO’
PlentyOfFish, an online dating site, surveyed singles about what they were looking for on Halloween.
Twenty-four percent of women who were out trick-or-treating hoped Batman would scare the bejesus out of them, while 23 percent hoped a Jay Gatsby look-alike (or maybe a Leonardo DiCaprio wannabe) would jump out from behind a tree.
Twenty-five percent of single men said they’d like to go bump in the night with a twerking Miley Cyrus, while 20 percent (I’m guessing these are men who prefer watching “Downton Abby” to “Duck Dynasty”) wanted to bob for apples with the royal Duchess of Cambridge, Kate Middleton.
Do you think an affair can save a marriage? Send your tale, along with your questions, problems and rants to email@example.com. And check out my new website askcheryl.net.