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Abuse is over, but will it ever really end? Part II

Updated: March 18, 2014 4:15PM



We’ve been following the tragic story of Holly and her daughters Chloe, 18, and Jasmine, 15, since March, just weeks after Holly learned that her husband Justin had been molesting Chloe, his stepdaughter, and “grooming” his stepdaughter Jasmine.

Holly caught us up with Chloe. She continues with Jasmine . . .

“Jasmine is doing well. She’s very busy with school and sports. Once football is finished, she’ll start counseling again. She has a boyfriend who lives a few towns away. We make an effort to see him when we can.

“We have many quiet nights with not much talking. I try to talk to her, but she doesn’t feel like talking to me about anything. I usually find out a day or two later what’s bothering her and why she keeps it to herself.

“I’m doing the best I can. Work is going well. I was promised more hours, but that hasn’t happened so I’ll be looking for a part time job soon. Money is still really tight. I paid my credit card bill late this month for the first time. They were understanding and waived the late charge.

“I’m still in therapy, but I’m having limited sessions because of insurance. I’m no longer on Justin’s insurance because of the pending divorce. I have my own insurance, but most of my claims fall under pre-existing conditions.

“I’ve had some health problems and need to have a cyst removed, but I can’t think about surgery right now. I don’t have any type of short term disability and can’t afford to be off of work.

“I’ve seen Justin just once when I had to go to court to extend my restraining order. His attorney approached me and asked me what I wanted to see happen to him once the child molestation trial starts. I told his attorney that I wanted jail time, life time sex offender registration, and probation afterwards. He told me that I was being harsh to his client.

“I had to go before the judge for the restraining order. I was asked to step to the side and Justin stood right next to me. I honestly felt my body starting to hemorrhage just from my frazzled nerves. I ended up at my gynecologist’s office and that was when she discovered the cyst.

“I’ve been dating but nothing serious. I was set up on a blind date and we’ve been seeing each other now for seven weeks. We see each other once or twice a week. I can talk to him about anything. I told him about my situation after about four weeks. It came out because he told a joke that made me uncomfortable. I started crying. I told him everything and he just held me and told me that I was going to be alright and that he wasn’t going anywhere. He’s still in the picture. I can’t introduce him to my kids just yet.

“We’re still here and doing the best we can. Every day is a gift and a blessing and I feel that we’re finally starting to see light at the end of the tunnel. I’m grateful that my daughter said something, but none of us will ever be the same.”

Are you involved in a dragged-out law suit with a former partner? Send your tale, along with your questions, problems and rants to cheryllavinrapp@gmail.com. And check out my new website askcheryl.net.

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