Updated: March 18, 2014 4:15PM
Some people really believe you can’t be “too rich or too thin.” While, others, such as Patrick, definitely believe you can.
Ronni: I am what’s considered obese. But for the Big Beautiful Women lovers I’m on the small side. I was in a long-term relationship with Patrick, a thin man. We were together for six years and had a child together. I’m very happy with my size and he enjoyed heavier women. To Patrick, I was the perfect size. He loved all the fluff.
During our time together I began to lose weight unintentionally. (I got a job that required me to be more physical.) He noticed and told me to stop. He was losing interest in me because I was getting smaller. (I was already the smallest woman he’d been with.) Although he still loved me, he was not sexually attracted to me anymore. He began to seek out bigger women, so I eventually broke up with him.
We’ve now been split up for two years. I’m sure if my weight hadn’t changed, we would still be together.
Victor: In my early twenties, I lost 51 pounds over a four-month period going down from 221 to 170. I’m now 60 and weigh 180 pounds. I didn’t go on a diet, I made a lifestyle change. No one program will work for everyone, each person has to find out what works for them and what motivates them. My motivation was to be more attractive to women plain and simple.
I recently mentored a friend through a 40-pound weight loss. She went from a size 14 to a size 6 in 10 months. She was 65 when we started so it can be done at any age.
I always suggest to people who need to lose weight to do it, if for no other reason, for their health. I’m 60 and I take no medication. If anyone needs an incentive to lose weight, do the height-to-waist ratio. Your waist should be less than half your height.
One gimmick to motivate someone who needs to lose 10, 15, or 20 pounds is to hand them that amount in weights. Ask them to carry it around for 10 minutes to see what it’s doing to their joints and heart.
Devon: I never ceased to be amazed at how bullying and petty adults can be. I’m shocked at how rude, judgmental and ugly they can be toward each other. We have programs in schools (at least my children’s district does) about anti-bullying and accepting others for what they are. Is it all tossed out the window when they graduate and everyone becomes fair game?
Why does it matter so much to everyone what everyone else is doing? Unless it’s criminal, what’s it to you? Obesity might predispose some people to diseases like diabetes, but in case no one noticed, thin people are dying every day. Nobody lives forever because they’re thin.
People need to look at themselves in the mirror before ragging on others. Some might be thin and think they’re superior humans (physically, at least), but the ugliness in their persona is a far worse problem.
Are you repulsed by fat? Do you think fat people are lazy or stupid? Send your tale, along with your questions, problems and rants to firstname.lastname@example.org. And check out my new website askcheryl.net.