Updated: July 19, 2013 3:26PM
Is it possible some fat people want to be fat?
Is it true that there are some diseases that make you fat?
Is it impossible for fat women to buy rings over-the-counter?
These are some of today’s issues.
Sassy: I’m a big girl, fluffy, thick or whatever name those thin folks call us. I eat no meat or seafood three days a week. I used to be a cheerleader. I’m athletic. I raised a 26-year-old son. I work eight to 10 hours daily. I have beautiful legs, bust and face. Men and women have told me I have an hourglass figure.
I’ve been called Sunshine, Sasha, Sparkle and Big Sexy. I accept all those names. I was very small through childhood and all my life until I got into my 30s. I keep myself looking good and I’m happy to be the size I am. I’ve matured into a woman, and if I looked like those thin folks, what would make me different?
I enjoy being different. You can’t clone me the way you can with all those skinny folks whose kneecaps protrude when they sit down.
So for all those who think that eating is the issue, it’s not. Look around. Many women are getting butt, breast and lip implants to look like me! Watch your man as I wiggle by!
Lisa: I’m slightly more than 250 pounds. Yes, I’m working on a diet. I’ve worked on many diets over many years. People are always trying to be helpful, telling me what and how to eat. I can take that because they think they’re being kind.
What bothers me is that fine jewelry stores carry only sizes 7, 8 or occasionally 9 rings.
It would be nice to get a ring that doesn’t need to be sized. Who made size 7 the standard size? Wouldn’t it be easier to downsize rather than enlarge a ring? Surely I can’t be the only one with fingers larger than 9.
Emma: Not all overweight people, especially women, are overeaters. I have PCOS (polycystic ovary syndrome), an endocrine disorder. I started gaining weight after I started my period. The only times I lost significant weight was when I hardly ate as a teenager and when I was at the gym two hours a day, six or seven days a week.
I don’t tend to overeat, but I do get insatiable cravings for carbs, which is due to PCOS. If I didn’t have it, I’d probably be the typical size 10 to 12. But because my body functions differently, I need to work harder to maintain or lose weight.
Do I eat junk or sit around all day? No! I don’t like people to think of me as an overeating lazy lady when I can’t control how my body breaks down food and metabolizes it. It’s because of PCOS that what I eat turns straight to fat instead of getting used as energy. Many women with this disease are even malnourished on a healthy diet.
Please don’t generalize about overweight people. There are plenty of health issues that cause weight gain. For me, it’s an everyday struggle to maintain my health. I think the people who judge heavier people never had the struggle themselves.
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