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Readers offer some negative  aspects of same-sex marriage

Updated: July 19, 2013 3:26PM

In the last column, we heard some of the pros in the debate about same sex marriage. Today, Darren and Liz offer some of the cons.

DARREN: You are afraid to address how children will be affected by being raised by gay partners who are not related to them. That is the fundamental question, but it has barely been addressed by objective science.

That is why government has no legitimate, recognizable, natural or constitutional authority to make gay marriage legal.

The rights of inchoate human beings, not yet conceived, much less born, must be recognized and sorted out within any legitimate governmental scheme.

LIZ: As an evangelical Christian, I believe the Bible is the inerrant and inspired word of God; consequently, I do not support same-sex “marriage.”

But religious beliefs aside, there are many reasons to support traditional marriage between one man and one woman. I’d like to offer a few.

To paraphrase Cardinal Francis George of Chicago, “Marriage is not the invention of the state or government, and they lack the authority to change the nature of marriage.”

Marriage is the bedrock of society. Anytime we stray from traditional marriage, there are social problems. We know for a fact that the first indicator of poverty in America is a home with a single mother, and we know what difficulties children from single parent homes have. We have no idea what kind of effect a gay “marriage” would have on children.

There is no such thing as a “right” to marry. The state can and does put limits on who can marry.

Relatives cannot marry. Underage children cannot marry.

There is no such thing as a “civil right” to marry. As a black person, I am offended when gays try to hijack our civil rights movement to apply it to their experience.

I can hide neither my race or my gender. My ancestors were enslaved, killed and beaten down for hundreds of years in this country. Gays can choose to hide their behavior at will as it suits them.

Gays don’t really want marriage as much as they want to legislate full acceptance of their lifestyle. In Scandinavia, where gays can “marry,” it was found that the actual percentage of “marriages” among gays was not that high. After they got the right to “marry,” they seemed not to actually want to do so.

One of the saddest things I ever read was a letter on the Internet written by a man who was raised by gay men. My heart broke for this man who delineated his difficulties in life and in interpersonal relationships because of his upbringing.

He vacillated between homosexual and heterosexual encounters. He had difficulty in social situations with even the simplest conversations having to do with gender because he had never been exposed to the many nuances of experiences and cultural references having to do with males and females. He was unable to establish any lasting satisfying emotional attachment to anyone and was alone.

We play with God-ordained traditional marriage to our great peril. My fervent hope is that the Supreme Court and other states will realize that marriage is so much more than two people in love. It is the basis on which human civilization has flourished for a millennia. It should not be tampered with.

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