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Ending uncommitted relationship opens the doors for true love

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Updated: March 6, 2013 6:12AM



Alisha met Mason six years ago. She was a nursing professor, and he was one of her nursing students. She was 47; he was 46. He was “bald, 5’8,” a gray beard, suave and debonair with a piercing smile and seductive eyes. He definitely caught my attention.”

Alisha says Mason would wait after class to ask her questions she knew he knew the answers. “But I would act coy and answer him. He would wink, and I’d blush. Oh, I liked him a great deal. At the end of the semester, I offered him my number and told him to call me if he wanted. Let the action begin!”

And begin it did. They would meet once or twice a week, and Alisha says she had the time of her life.

“I liked him so much that my heart would palpitate, and I would perspire just waiting for him to arrive. We would make passionate love for hours. He would tell me how beautiful I am, how good I smell, how intelligent I am and the list goes on. In the middle of the night, after lovemaking, he would cook us a full course meal and feed me in bed. Then he would hold me all night until I left the next day.”

Why is it nothing this blissful can ever last?

One day, Alisha called, but Mason didn’t answer“I actually became concerned. I called again and left messages and said that if I didn’t hear from him, I would come by his house.”

She didn’t hear from him for three days.

On the third day, she went to his house. “He was there exercising. He asked me to come in so we could talk about it. I refused.”

A few days later, Mason called and told Alisha he was just so overwhelmed with school that he couldn’t see straight.

“He apologized and asked me to come to his place for dinner so we could talk about it. I did and it started up all over again. We’d get back together, and then he’d disappear for days. He always had excuses.”

Alisha says this back-and-forth, yo-yo-ing went on for six years. Six years! During this time, Alisha tutored him and lent him money for his education, which he was supposed to repay but never did. She also helped his mother and the rest of his family and gave him expensive gifts.

Despite all this, he never made a commitment to her.

“I finally stepped out of this revolving door one year ago. I refused his calls and visits; I refused to have sex with him. I let him go.”

Three months later, the most amazing thing happened.

“I met a marvelous man, good-looking, 6’3”, and available. He approached me in church, and we exchanged numbers. We’ve been dating for nearly 10 months, and I’m officially engaged. We have amazing chemistry, and I’m happier than I’ve ever been. My fiance put a ring on it.”

Alisha has some advice she’d like to share. “Ladies, stop wasting your time. If a man loves you, he commits.”

Are you wasting your time on a dead-end relationship? What’s it going to take to get you to walk away? Send your tale, along with your questions, problems and rants to cheryllavinrapp@gmail.com.



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