With her, the sex was nice, the stalking not so much
October 22, 2012 7:32AM
Updated: November 23, 2012 6:12AM
Six months after Alex met Babe, she talked him into letting her move in with him. After an additional six months, she talked him into marrying her. “There were no red flags other than her eagerness to move the relationship along with the threat of her ending it if I were to stall. So I let it happen since I was otherwise enjoying her company and the wonderful physical relationship.”
In other words, the sex was great, and he didn’t want to risk losing it.
Soon after they got married, Alex said everything began to change. “My wife had a terrible case of extreme, unwarranted jealousy.” Babe’s previous husband had frequently cheated on her. She acted as if Alex was about to start cheating on her, too.
“I’m not a cheater. I’ve never felt I needed any woman other than my wife. I’m loyal and not sexually interested in other beautiful women.”
Babe was so afraid that Alex would cheat that she wouldn’t let him have any money, just enough to pay for lunch. “She was afraid I might buy a prostitute, something I would never, ever do. She covered my eyes in the movies when there were scenes with scantily clad or naked women. She even tore pictures of attractive women from magazines and newspapers. She refused to let me watch certain television programs for the same reason.
“If a female called on the phone, even if it was for work or just a telemarketer, I was accused of cheating with her. If it were someone from work, I had to convince Babe it was about work.”
When she wasn’t convinced, she would “punish” him. “She would keep me awake all night long, something she could manage to do herself but was absolute torture for me.”
Alex moved out. Babe would call at 3 a.m. and hang up. He called the police and told them she was harassing him. “I chose to have her warned and not prosecuted, and although the calls initially stopped, they continued occasionally.”
Babe began stalking Alex and playing potentially dangerous tricks on him. “She made an appointment for me with a hair replacement business, figuring it would embarrass and hurt me. She even called my place of work and said her daughter attended the school where I worked and I had molested the girl. She didn’t leave her name. Her actions threatened my livelihood.”
Through it all, Alex would receive love letters from Babe. “Valentine-like cards, some of them two feet tall including 45 rpm records of songs we loved together, with notes expressing her love for me and telling me how much she wanted me back. It was like ‘Fatal Attraction.’ ”
It took Alex a full year to get rid of Babe. She continued her dirty tricks till the very end.
Alex has dated some since the divorce and says most women believe men are guilty till proven innocent based on their past experiences.
“For instance, one woman’s ex was a compulsive gambler, and they wound up in bankruptcy. After one trip to an OTB, I was treated as if I were a compulsive gambler, too. I’m done trying to find a woman, although I’m willing to let the right one find me.”
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