From spicing up marriage to requiring pepper spray
By Cheryl Lavin October 2, 2012 7:02AM
Updated: November 3, 2012 6:11AM
After 25 years, a marriage can go stale. That was the state of Lisa’s marriage in 2000. She had met Jack, a photographer with a distinguished resume, a few months before, and she decided to have him take some “glam” photos. What she got instead was her life turned upside down.
“I wanted something a little ‘blue’ to spice up my marriage and hired Jack. He sent me some of the initial photos. They were great. I asked him what I owed him. Apparently he felt I owed him ‘dating.’ I was married! Dating was not an option. All I was doing was trying to save my marriage. We argued for month, to no avail.”
Lisa and her husband went on vacation. They were gone for three weeks. When she got home, there were 99 phone messages on her answering machine.
“They were from men all over the world asking to have sex with me. One day I intercepted a call from a man and asked him how he got my information. It seems while I was gone, Jack was playing games. He created a false Yahoo profile of me, using one of the photographs he took with my real phone number.”
Lisa says it took an attorney, a subpoena “and a lot of hassle” to get the profile removed.
“Of course Jack denied any involvement despite the fact that my attorney obtained information from Yahoo to prove otherwise.”
That wasn’t all he did. Lisa says he would drive 120 miles round-trip just to creep past her home.
A few months later, Lisa’s marriage fell apart.
By the beginning of 2002, she and her husband were divorced.
“Well into 2002, Jack wouldn’t leave me alone. I changed my cell phone number. I moved twice. I got involved in a relationship with someone else. Jack wouldn’t let it go. He tormented me. He lied. He followed me. He used mutual friends to gather information on me.
“In the summer of 2006, he finally made the ultimate mistake. He convinced one of my co-workers that he was a long-lost friend and got my new cell phone number. He called me and continued to torment me.”
Lisa had enough on him to call the police. He was now on their radar as a stalker.
Lisa moved once again. “The move was good for me. It put distance between Jack and me.”
Friends told her that Jack was “desperate” to find her. “I erased my footsteps. I bought a condo and listed my phone in the name of a deceased relative. I changed my cell phone carrier and did everything I could to hide from this sick, weird man.”
How sick is Jack? How weird is he? He’s now serving an 11-year sentence on multiple child pornography charges.
“When his computers were seized by the authorities, they were able to see how he had tormented me for years, how he had stalked me. He’s scheduled for release in 2014, and the state of Illinois must contact me before they let him go.
“No one has ever instilled more fear in me than this sick little man. I applied for and got a concealed carry permit! The day that son of a b---- is released, I’ll be strapping on a holster!”
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