What’s your pleasure? It differs for women, study shows
BY DR. LAURA BERMAN firstname.lastname@example.org November 20, 2013 4:49PM
10-19-07 Dr. Laura Berman in studio......Rich Hein/Sun-Times
Updated: April 14, 2014 4:48PM
What’s your take on one-night-stands? A recent survey led by the Kinsey Institute found that women are two times more likely to have an orgasm when they are in a relationship as opposed to a causal affair. They also are much less likely to reach orgasm during a hookup when compared to men — 80 percent of men report reaching gratification after a casual sex encounter, as opposed to only 42 percent of women.
It’s easy to understand why this might be the case. For one thing, the brain is the main sexual organ for most of us. In other words, an emotional and mental connection helps contribute to some of the fun and passion of sex. Additionally, reaching orgasm often can require a willingness to be vulnerable and uninhibited, and some women (and men) are unable to reach that point of freedom and openness with someone they just met.
Furthermore, in a random hookup, the couple will be less aware of each other’s needs and desires, meaning that a woman’s hot spots often go ignored. In a long-term relationship, a woman’s partner might be more motivated to make sure that she is fulfilled and satisfied, but in a causal hookup, the man might have less motivation and interest in her needs.
Does this mean that casual sex is only fun for men? Not necessarily. Orgasm isn’t the only point of sex, and for some women, the excitement of the chase, the feeling of being desired, and the adventure of sex can be part of the thrill of causal encounters, even if orgasm doesn’t occur.
Still, it’s important to note that casual sex can be particularly risky since you don’t know your partner or his sexual history, and for that reason, random hookups might not offer a reward that is worth the risk.