Wedding pressure for straight and gay couples now?
BY DR. LAURA BERMAN firstname.lastname@example.org November 13, 2013 10:48AM
Updated: May 29, 2014 4:30PM
Marriage equality is now a reality for all couples living in the State of Illinois after the Illinois House of Representatives finally passed on Nov. 5 a bill legalizing same-sex marriage.
As the 15th state in the nation to make marriage equality a reality, Illinoisans have much to celebrate. We finally are getting closer to a society in which people of all sexual orientations can be equal in the eyes of the law.
It is not only a time of celebration, but one of transition for many same-sex couples across the state. Gay and lesbian couples might find themselves confronted with some of the same wedding pressure that traditionally has faced heterosexual couples.
For example, after years of saying, “When it is finally legal, then we will get married,” now same-sex couples might have to decide if they really are ready to take things to the next level. With pressure from well-meaning family and friends — asking, “So when are you two going to tie the knot?” — it suddenly can feel as though everyone is pushing you down the aisle.
The same is true for heterosexual couples. Many famous pairs (such as Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt and Kristen Bell and Dax Shepard) said that they would postpone their weddings until marriage was legalized for gay and lesbian couples, and that sentiment spread outside of Hollywood. Now, many of these couples might have to decide if they are truly ready to commit — or if they were secretly using this popular tactic as a way to evade to walking the aisle!
Whatever the case, marriage equality is a human right that I, and many others in Illinois, are thrilled has become a reality. Let’s hope this momentous occasion encourages other states to stand up and follow suit. After all, everyone deserves the chance to live happily ever after, whether that means getting married right away or taking things slow.