Were you meant to be a matchmaker?
BY DR. LAURA BERMAN firstname.lastname@example.org February 5, 2013 9:14AM
Patti Stanger speaks to Daniel Kibblesmith (center) and Prince Mario Max Schaumburg-Lippe on "The Millionaire Matchmaker" in the episode airing Aug. 29, 2011, on Bravo.
Updated: March 7, 2013 6:11AM
Matchmaker, matchmaker, make me a match!
Have you ever wondered what it would be like to work in the field of matchmaking? From television shows like Bravo’s “Millionaire Matchmaker” to VH1’s “Tough Love,” the ancient art of matchmaking has become a hot career.
In today’s busy and often disconnected world, matchmaking can be a lifesaver for people who don’t have time to meet potential mates the old-fashioned way. And, with Valentine’s Day just around the corner, many hopeful singles are looking for ways to re-energize their search for love. If you are tired of the bar scene or you are exhausted from sifting through millions of online dating ads, matchmaking could be the solution.
Matchmaking services are successful for many people, which is why they are still in high demand, even in this economy. (Finding love appears to be a recession-proof business! In a recent survey led by the Matchmaking Institute, it was found that most matchmakers reported that the financial climate has only slightly impacted business).
If you have wondered if matchmaking might be the right career for you, consider the other findings released by the Matchmaking Institute and co-owner and renowned matchmaker Lisa Clampitt:
† Both women and men are actively searching for love. While some matchmakers cater solely to one gender, most matchmakers work with both male and female clients. It goes to show that women aren’t the only ones who are seeking a deep connection and lasting love. It’s something most people desire, and they aren’t afraid to turn to matchmakers to find love!
† People of all religions use matchmaking services. According to the survey, 38.4 percent of matchmaking clients are Christian, but many other religions also are represented. This includes those who are spiritual but not religious — 31.3 percent identified as such.
† Matchmakers have to be multi-talented. Along with making matches and running a business, matchmakers also have to ensure that their clients have enjoyable dates. To that end, matchmakers often offer date coaching. More than 80 percent of matchmakers report that they work with their clients beforehand to make sure that they have the skills they need to impress their date. More than 90 percent of matchmakers also give feedback to their clients at the end of the date. That helps them to discover their strengths and realize what areas might need attention.
If you are considering using a matchmaker, it’s a good idea to make sure that they are state-licensed to ensure that they are following the code of ethics and strict quality control, which have been established in the matchmaking industry. You also might want to talk to past clients to gauge their experience and learn if their search for love was successful. You want to find a matchmaker who understands your unique personality and desires in order to ensure that it is a good fit. Not all matchmakers are created equal!
Interested in learning more? Visit www.matchmakinginstitute.com
Dr. Berman is the host of “In the Bedroom with Dr. Laura Berman,” which airs at 9 p.m. Tuesdays on OWN: Oprah Winfrey Network.