Owning a dog is a big responsibility

ASK DOG LADY | Boy thinks mother doubts his responsibility, but she’s just being honest

Q. I have a son (16) who would love to have a dog/puppy.  Even though I love dogs and would not mind having one, the problem is we have three cats and live in a very small home. I have relentlessly told my son “no” to a dog.

He feels that it is because I do not believe he is responsible enough. I have explained to him that is not the reason, as a matter of fact he would be very responsible. I am a single mother who works two jobs and is starting school again to finish my bachelor of arts degree soon. My son goes to school and is also looking for a job. No one will be around to take the responsibility of caring for a dog/puppy.

While raising my son by myself all these years, I have placed my career and education on hold. Now it is my turn to finally do the things I have always wanted to do. A dog/puppy would be neglected and that would break my heart and I could not concentrate. Am I being selfish?

I told my son when he gets married and has his own family, he can get a dog/puppy. Please advise.

Heartbroken

A. You’re not selfish. You are honest.

Too often, people acquire dogs to make other people happy. The dog becomes abandoned in all the good intentions. You have assessed your lifestyle in a very adult, very conscientious way and Dog Lady applauds you.

Your son should be very proud of you. You show him how to do right for mothers, teenagers and dogs. You send the clear message that a pet decision is not frivolous.

If every potential canine keeper was as deliberate as you, we’d have a lot less frantic, barking-wildly, miserable dogs out there. Already you deserve an advanced degree in foresight.

Q. I have a 14-year-old yellow Labrador that I can’t take care of due to work and travel schedules. I put him in a kennel frequently. Even though it is a good kennel, I hate to keep leaving him there, plus there’s the considerable cost. My father used to take care of him for me but he has since passed away and there is no one else available. Any thoughts on a new home for him?

Scott

A. Every breed has a rescue group devoted to dogs. Surely, the Labrador group would be eager to help with resettlement of your aged dog. Many people who adopt dogs with responsible thoughtfulness choose older dogs that are trained and grateful.

Google “Labrador Retriever rescue” and “nearest no-kill animal shelter.” Both of these resources can help find a new home for your aged yellow Lab.

Sure, you’re busy but don’t be too busy to find your venerable dog a new home.

Forget Craigslist. Dog Lady can’t read the Craigslist pet section without tearing up.

If you want to post your Lab’s picture, use Petfinder. Many shelters and rescue groups also use this Web resource. Do the right thing for your dear elderly dog. He gave you (and your late father) many years. Now, apply all your energy and resources in resettling him comfortably.

Pet perplexed? Write doglady@askdoglady.com.