Never mind pug's cute mug, don't feed him scraps

ASK DOG LADY | Keep Otis on diet even when he pleads with adorable eyes

My pug, Otis, tends to be overweight. I have tried cutting back on his food and walking him a lot. I also give him "light" dog food. He just doesn't lose weight, and everyone who sees him remarks on how fat he is.

Being my baby, I don't think he is that fat. I think he is pretty muscular, very strong and a hefty build. Do you have any suggestions?

Judi

A. Think of how we rationalize our own heft: "Sure, I'm a few pounds overweight. It's OK. I'm just big-boned." Sounds like you're making the same excuses for Otis.

Keep Otis on a regimen, with no table scraps. Be mindful that your resolve can unravel in an instant when a sweet pug's mug stares up at you with those adorable pop eyes pleading: "Oh, Judi, please give me a scrap from your chicken dinner. Maybe two scraps. Or three."

On a small dog such as Otis, excess pounds -- even three or four -- cause physical problems. Go to the veterinarian and have your dog thoroughly checked before beginning any weight loss campaign. Find out from your vet what your dog's ideal weight should be -- hefty build or not.

Try not to pay any mind to people who remark rudely about your dog's fat. Such needless disrespect drives Dog Lady bonkers. The next time someone makes a crack about Otis' poundage, lightheartedly inquire of the gossipy meddler: "And you would be the canine corpulence cop?"

Q. I have a vivacious Border collie named Jack, who loves to play and exercise. While I love that he's playful, I wish that he was more affectionate. What can I do to make Jack be more affectionate to me?

Jessica

A. Unfortunately, Jack won't notice if you put on a sexy negligee and a classic love ballad to grab his attention. And your dog won't allow you to hug him until he's good and ready. In this respect, isn't it funny how dogs ape humans?

Some dogs want to smother you in exuberant leaps and licks; others keep their distance, doling out affection discreetly.

Independent, single-minded dogs such as Border collies, Scottish terriers and Jack Russells give the love in their own time, at their own pace. Pity the fool who tries to force themselves on a canine who isn't in the mood for snuggling because you really get a firm "no," with a turned head and a blank stare. As with humans, the more you approach them for affection, the more they back away if they're not so inclined to be mushy.

Instead of demanding the love, make a fun game instead. Throw a ball or play hide and seek with a stick or a toy. Take Jack to a wonderful park or wildlife trail and walk with him on the leash. After spending time like this, your Border collie might be so relaxed that he will roll over and allow you to snuggle -- a little.

Q. Recently, you said don't swat the dog with torn underwear, or anything ever. Sorry, but a rolled up newspaper is effective for training without hurting the dog.

Guy

A. Who said it doesn't hurt? Using a newspaper to whack the dog is the wrong way to recycle. The venerable newspaper business deserves better. You should never hit a dog with anything.

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