The pluses and minuses of being ‘nearlyweds’
BY DR. LAURA BERMAN firstname.lastname@example.org August 28, 2013 5:52PM
Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie are "nearlyweds." | AP
Updated: May 29, 2014 4:32PM
Nearlyweds are the latest relationship trend popular in Hollywood and beyond. They are couples who have been engaged for a long time without any clear plan of when they will get married (think Brad and Angelina or Jennifer and Justin.)
Nearlyweds often have been engaged for years; some even have a child or multiple children together. However, they are in no rush to plan a wedding or walk down the aisle. What’s the allure?
For one thing, it allows couples to stay in that stage of pre-wedding bliss when everything is exciting, full of hope and promise. For another, it’s a way to get inquisitive and pushy family members off your back, all while validating the relationship and letting the world know how serious and committed you are.
However, it’s important examine your true motivations behind your nearlywed status. Are you just conforming to societal expectations or do you truly want to get married someday? If you aren’t sure and you don’t enjoy the idea of putting a label or undue pressure on your relationship, why not just be honest with your friends and family? Say something like “We aren’t opposed to getting married, but we have no plans to do so and aren’t sure that we ever will. But we will keep you posted when and if things change!”
While old-school traditionalists might balk at nearlyweds, in many ways it actually is a positive trend. It gives couples more time to really think about their future before rushing down the aisle, and offers the freedom to create the relationship that works best for them.
It might not be for everyone, but as long as you communicate your needs and your relationship goals to your partner, it could be an important step on your road to happily ever after.