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  • Tell rude employee behavior must stop

    Dear Abby: How do I deal with an assistant who keeps calling me a “brownnoser”? She did it again yesterday at a staff meeting in front of my boss and another assistant. It was the third time she has said it. She is gruff and …Read More

  • Al-Anon can help wife of alcoholic

    Dear Abby: I am a 34-year-old wife and mother of four. I’m concerned about my husband. He is 44 and drinks at home every evening after work. I don’t mind him having a few cans of beer, but he drinks between six and 12 a …Read More

  • Time to dump lying, cheating boyfriend

    Dear Abby: I have been in a long-distance relationship with “Victor” for several years. Recently I began to suspect he was cheating. What raised my suspicion was that I suddenly couldn’t reach him on the weekends. Usually we would Skype -- Sunday night for me, …Read More

  • Both sexes become victims of abuse

    Dear Abby: I read your Jan. 8 column about the warning signs of an abuser. Would you use your influence to say that men are also victims of abuse? My son was in a three-year relationship with a woman who scored 15 out of 15 …Read More

  • Talking on phone taking a backseat

    Dear Abby: I recently exchanged pleasantries via email and text messaging with a lady I met on a website. One day later, I received a message from her stating she’d prefer our method of communication be kept to email and texting because she wasn’t much …Read More

  • On-and-off romance needs more thought

    Dear Abby: I’m in a tricky situation. My boyfriend of four years, “Ian,” and I took a break from our relationship for two months because he was scared he’d miss out on the single life. We started hanging out again soon after, and everything fell …Read More

  • Do not interfere with service dogs

    Dear Abby: I use a service dog, and I’m constantly barraged with requests to pet him. Other people who use service dogs warned me this would happen. Although the ADA does not require him to wear a vest, I bought one for him that reads, …Read More

  • Couple owns money made while married

    Dear Abby: My wife and I were discussing our sons-in-law, and young men in their 20s and 30s in general. We were wondering where the attitude of “any money I earn is mine” in a marriage or live-in situation got started. For the first few …Read More

  • Don’t rush for fear of losing boyfriend

    Dear Abby: I’m a 27-year-old woman who has never had a boyfriend or been kissed. I was never interested in romance or having a significant other. I felt strong being independent and taking care of myself. Now that I have a degree, a career and …Read More

  • Seeking acceptance of transgender mate

    Dear Abby: I’m a divorced woman with grown children. I have always supported gay rights and thought of myself as straight. But a few months ago, I met a woman, “Stephanie.” We hit it off immediately, and I was shocked to learn she’s a transgender …Read More

  • Mother’s problems no one’s business

    Dear Abby: My mother committed suicide when I was a child. She was severely depressed, and although she sought professional help, the worst happened. When conversing with acquaintances, the subject often turns to family, and I will say that my mother “passed away” when I …Read More

  • Mom who lost baby looks for right words

    Dear Abby: My 1-year-old baby recently passed away. I have two other children, one with special needs. I find it irritating and not at all comforting when people tell me that “at least I have other children and that I should concentrate on them.” How …Read More

  • Wife being ignored by ‘weird’ father-in-law

    Dear Abby: I have been married to my wonderful husband for 10 years. My father-in-law, “John,” has always been a man of extremely few words with me. He mostly just ignores me when I’m around. I have mentioned it to my husband and mother-in-law over …Read More

  • Teen shares friend’s grief without tears

    Dear Abby: I’m 15. Yesterday, they told our class that one of my friend’s parents had died suddenly. Every single person in our grade cried, except for me. I felt bad about not crying for my friend’s loss, but I just didn’t. Another friend told …Read More

  • Big night shows lack of planning

    Dear Abby: My boyfriend and I have been together for two years. We recently spent a romantic night at a hotel, complete with dinner, drinks — the whole shebang — that he organized. I know he was a little stressed about money because he mentioned …Read More

  • Don’t make babies just for playmates

    Dear Abby: “Maybe Only One in Georgia” (Jan. 7), who asked whether she should have a second child, needs to understand there are no guarantees. Her 5-year-old could end up hating her younger sibling, or adoring her. Parents create a child because they want to …Read More

  • Low self-esteem may explain her flirtatiousness

    Dear Abby: I have been with my current boyfriend for a year and a half and I love him dearly. However, I often find myself drawn to other guys who I know are nothing but trouble. It never goes further than simple flirting, but I …Read More