Addiction to porn  is dangerous for teen and his girlfriend

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Updated: February 12, 2012 8:15AM

Dear Abby: I have been dating “Kyle” for more than six months, but I have loved him for more than two years. I always thought we had a wonderful relationship and that Kyle was a sweet, innocent guy. Well, he just confided to me that he has an Internet porn addiction! I’m very hurt by this and don’t want to lose him. What should I do?

Innocent Teen in Michigan

Dear Innocent Teen: You should urge Kyle to get help for his addiction. Addiction, by definition, is behavior that is compulsive and out of control.

The problem with teenage boys getting involved with Internet porn is it gives them an unrealistic expectation of how regular, normal women look and act.

Although you don’t want to lose him, becoming more involved could lead to his wanting to try out his sexual fantasies with you — and if you go along with it, it will land you in a world of trouble. The smart thing to do is end this relationship NOW.

Dear Abby:

The problem is, I’m lonely and I think my husband is, too. We work long hours and spend our weekends doing chores. My solution to help myself feel better is to get a dog. My husband, however, doesn’t want one. He wants to wait until “later” — whenever that is. I think a pet would make me leave work earlier and force both of us to get out of the house. I know there are expenses involved, but I’m willing to make sacrifices.

Am I being unreasonable or silly? I want my husband to be a part of raising a pet and, perhaps, participate in some obedience training. I’m trying my best to persuade him without being a nag, but I’m beginning to feel like a little kid who’s begging “Daddy” for a puppy. I’d appreciate some advice.

Pining for a Puppy in Texas

Dear Pining: Before embarking on a “pet” project, don’t you think you should first find out what may be causing your husband’s behavior? While a dog could work wonders and help you both be more active, between his job and the weekend chores, taking a puppy to obedience training may be too much for him. If he’s not up to it, would YOU be willing to shoulder that task — and the walking, feeding, grooming and cleaning up?

An energetic puppy can be a lot to handle. Would you consider adopting an older dog, or fostering one that needs a temporary home? I don’t recommend bringing a dog into your lives unless your husband agrees. And if he doesn’t, please consider volunteering a few days a month at an animal shelter or pet rescue kennel.

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