Things to consider before heading to divorce court
BY DR. LAURA BERMAN firstname.lastname@example.org February 5, 2014 3:30PM
10-19-07 Dr. Laura Berman in studio......Rich Hein/Sun-Times
Updated: April 14, 2014 4:38PM
Considering a divorce? A new study published in Population Research and Policy Review has found that the divorce rate is increasing as the economy is improving.
Just as it happened during the Great Depression, divorces declined from 2009 to 2011, and many people believe that the poor economy was the reason why fewer couples than usual were opting to split. Some people believe that hard times might encourage couples to cling to one another, but cynics say that is more likely that divorces go down in a bad economy simply because people cannot afford a costly separation.
Whatever the case, now that the economy is slowly recovering, the divorce rate is creeping back up. Before you and your partner throw in the towel though, here are some things to consider:
Don’t underestimate the importance of therapy. Therapy can’t save every relationship (especially if you wait until you already have one foot out the door), but it can do wonders for your communication, and it’s certainly worth the investment.
If you and your partner are willing to do the work, your relationship can be saved. Even if the issue is as serious as infidelity, if both you and your partner are 100 percent committed to doing the work, you can turn things around. Unless a deal-breaker such as physical or emotional abuse is involved, there is hope for your relationship.
If you do decide to get a divorce, take heart. Although the coming months will be difficult, you are strong enough to take on the issues that arise and you will find love again if you keep your heart open.
Here’s to an improving economy — and to couples channeling their newfound funds toward therapy rather than a divorce attorney!