A holiday of love and loss
By Cheryl Lavin January 7, 2014 10:04AM
New Year’s Eve is one of those litmus test holidays. It tells you where you stand in your relationship. And sometimes that’s on the outside looking in.
TESS: Twice, I took back a man who cheated on me with a woman who had been a friend to us both. We tried to work through it, but the last straw came when he spent most of a New Year’s Eve talking about his feelings for her and how confused he was. I told him he was free to do whatever would make him happy.
He married her and now tells me it was the worst mistake of his life. I also got married, and it’s the best thing that ever happened to me. Imagine that.
JUDITH: It was New Year’s Eve 1956. My co-worker’s husband had a friend who was home on leave from the Navy and needed a date for that special night. We met for coffee that morning, and he seemed nice, so I agreed that the four of us would go out together. We spent the rest of his leave together, and when he went back to his ship, we kept in touch with lots of letters.
One day I heard a new song, ‘Till.’ The lyrics were so nice that I wrote in my next letter about the song. As our letters crossed the seas, the next letter I received had the same message to me about the new song he had heard. And so it became our song, and all these years later, I’m still that young girl every time I hear it and it’s still our song:
“Till the moon deserts the sky/Till all the seas run dry/Till then I’ll worship you/You are my reason to live/All I own I would give/Just to have you adore me/Till the rivers flow upstream/Till lovers cease to dream/Till then I’m yours, be mine.”
FRANCESDA: It was New Year’s Eve and I was 15 years old and baby-sitting my brother. My best friend was with me and talked me into calling the boy she had a crush on. He had plans for the night but agreed to stop by. When he came over, I was busy with my little brother. But when he left, I walked him to the door. He looked at me and I knew he could see clear to my soul. He shook me up.
A few days later he asked me out. I had to choose between him and my best friend. I chose him. Good idea. Our 15th anniversary is on the 12 of March.
NICK: 2013 was an awful year. I lost my job due to unforeseen issues. Three people who were very close to me died. And I gained more unwanted weight. In fact, I’ve never been this heavy in my whole life. I made it through all this and more with the help of my faith and amazingly supportive friends. (I have very little family left.)
My holidays were intentionally low key and private as I planned out changes to be made in 2014. New Year’s Eve will be spent at home alone as I look to taking better care of myself physically, emotionally and socially. I hope everyone else had a better 2013 and wish them more good things for 2014.
How was your New Year’s Eve? Send your tale, along with your questions, problems and rants to email@example.com. And check out my new website askcheryl.net. Creators Syndicate