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Stalker harasses couple for years

Updated: March 18, 2014 4:15PM



Jenny caught her husband Daniel, cheating with Mia, a woman he rode the commuter train with. He admitted everything and they began counseling. They put their marriage back on solid ground and were ready to move on. But Mia was not.

“She wanted what I had,” says Jenny, “and she wasn’t willing to let go.”

Mia sent Jenny a detailed diary of the entire affair between her and Daniel. She sent Daniel emails at work and called him at home and the office. She drove past their house and ran into him accidentally whenever possible. Daniel started noticing little nicks and dings on his car in the train station parking lot.

“Mia was very angry. She had left her marriage because she thought she had her hooks into my husband. She wasn’t going to be satisfied until we split up and were as miserable as she was.”

Jenny found out through the suburban grapevine that Mia had slept with several other (married) men who rode the same train. Like boys in a locker room, they all began to talk.

“This girl is a mess and a menace to herself and anyone she comes into contact with.”

Jenny and Daniel moved and Daniel stopped riding the train. They thought that would get Mia off their back. But it’s been two years and she’s still sending Daniel occasional emails at work. That’s the only way she can contact him because Jenny and Daniel have changed their phone numbers and closed all their social networking accounts. That hasn’t stopped her from occasionally hanging out around a bar near Daniel’s office. Daniel contacts Jenny and their attorney when he hears from her.

“We have an agreement of full and immediate disclosure if and when he has any sort of contact with her. We’ve been advised to do nothing unless she becomes threatening. We do have enough evidence to take her to court for harassment and at the very least obtain a restraining order.”

Despite Mia’s best efforts, this tale has a happy ending. “All I can tell you is that having a good and healthy marriage is hard work and needs to be attended to on a daily basis. It’s better to forgive and try to forget about the past and the things that you can’t control. And the old saying that living well is the best revenge is true. As I look around my beautiful home and happy family I realize we came through this for the better. We’re currently building a second home, our dream home on a lake that will serve as a vacation home for our family now and a place where the two of us can retire eventually.

“We’re going to celebrate our 15th wedding anniversary in Jamaica this winter. We’ll renew our vows with our children as witnesses. I plan to give my husband a pair of rocking chairs to use on the porch of the lake house. We can spend the rest of our lives sitting together watching the sun set on our future and enjoying the precious time we share together. No one can take that away from us. Not now, not ever, no matter how hard they try.”

Has someone tried to break up your relationship? Were they successful? Send your tale, along with your questions, problems and rants to cheryllavinrapp@gmail.com. And check out my new website askcheryl.net.

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