Should you tell your mate to drop some pounds?
BY DR. LAURA BERMAN email@example.com October 2, 2013 4:52PM
Updated: October 2, 2013 5:17PM
Would you ever tell your mate it’s time to lose weight?
A recent survey performed in the United Kingdom found that brides and grooms lose around 10 pounds each in preparation for their wedding. However, the survey also found that the men in the study often were prodded to lose weight by their partner, meaning their women were pushing them to eat kale and sweat it out at the gym.
Is there anything wrong with encouraging your partner to live a healthy lifestyle or lose weight for a special occasion?
That depends. It’s important to remember that weight loss and health are not inherently linked. There are very unhealthy ways to lose weight, and that includes crash-dieting before walking down the aisle. It’s likely that many of the men in the study will regain their pre-wedding weight, especially because the decision to drop pounds was not their own.
I also wonder if the brides and grooms put as much thought into their connection and communication as they did on their external appearance. Six pack abs are sexy, but so is a great sense of humor, a kind spirit, and a commitment to monogamy and unconditional love. Instead of focusing their attention on looking perfect on the outside, spouses-to-be should focus their attention on their inner connection and their willingness to love and accept their partner for who they really are, flaws and all.
Of course, there’s nothing wrong with wanting to take care of yourself and encouraging your partner to do the same. Cook healthy meals together, hit the gym as a couple, go for a walk after dinner, or join an intramural sports team to make sure that you stay active and fit. Remember, physical health is a big part of sexual health, so break a sweat outside the bedroom if you want to break a sweat inside it.