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Dating columnist JuliAlliswhose love life is chronicled Bravo’s “Miss Advised” made 73-point checklist traits she wants mate.

‘I’M TYPE A’ Dating columnist Julia Allison, whose love life is chronicled on Bravo’s “Miss Advised,” made a 73-point checklist of traits she wants in a mate.

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Updated: July 19, 2012 6:05AM

Some women follow “The Rules” when it comes to dating.

Julia Allison wrote “The List.” And it’s a long one: 73 bullet points, in fact.

The 31-year-old Wilmette native headed to Georgetown University after graduating from New Trier High School, where she wrote her school newspaper’s first dating column. She continued to chronicle the dating habits of her fellow singletons while writing for Time Out New York. She returned to Chicago in 2010 to write a column for Tribune Media Services and picked up a reality-show gig upon her move to Los Angeles last November.

“Miss Advised” premieres Monday (9 p.m. on Bravo) and follows the dating habits of three professionals who work in the dating and relationship industry. Amy Laurent, based in New York City, is a matchmaker, while San Francisco-based radio talk show host and author Emily Morse chats about sex and eschews monogamy. Allison completes the dating trifecta as a dating columnist and expert.

It was during her Time Out tenure she met her “Miss Advised” castmate.

“When I was a dating columnist, I used Amy,” she said of a story she wrote. “I went to see three matchmakers and tried all of their services.”

While the experience was a positive one, Allison didn’t find a match. She did, however, date a man she felt was a good fit, good enough to later list his traits as a starting point — or manifesto — for what a good man must have.

“I always had criteria. If he was fascinating, I would date him, which made a one-point checklist,” Allison said in a phone interview.

When she met up with her college boyfriend after a few years of dating in New York, Allison came to the realization she was pressing the repeat button on her dating life. It was at that point she wanted to change direction and started to redefine the qualities she wanted in potential mates.”

“At 281/2 I’d seen what I needed to see,” she said. “I’m Type A. And I probably learned at New Trier, or perhaps from my parents, that anything worth doing is worth writing a list. I also read The Secret around this time. I guess I didn’t realize everyone didn’t have a 73-point checklist.”

For viewers who don’t identify as Type A, the list may appear a tad OCD. But Allison swears it’s not, as the man who inspired her reached into the mid-60s.

“There are items that are incredibly important that 99 percent of people would not argue with — kindness, love of family, intelligence, ethics and honesty,” she said. “There’s nothing arbitrary, not a hair color or height. In fact, I actually specify spirituality or a deep faith.”

Allison may live and date in Los Angeles, but she does make trips back to Chicago, as she’s hosting the Kenilworth Union Church’s annual Preview Deballage Luncheon and Fashion Show July 11. And while she won’t divulge if “Miss Advised” helped her find true love, she does have a soft spot for Midwestern men.

“In New York City, they [men] have this strange timeline,” Allison said. “If you are 35, you are too young to get married. I don’t believe that to be the case in the Midwest. I love Midwestern guys, but most of them are taken.”

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