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Suburban sex columnist Marjie Killeen

Suburban sex columnist Marjie Killeen

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‘Why is Good sex important?’

When: 7:30 p.m. Thursday. Subsequent shows in the series include “Monogamy Monotony” Oct. 18 and the holiday-centric “Bridging the Male/Female Divide” Nov. 29.

Where: Wilmette Theatre, 1122 Central Ave., Wilmette

Tickets: $20 ($45 for three-show subscription)

Info: (847) 251-7424;

Updated: October 28, 2012 6:47AM

It’s the eternal dilemma: Sex vs. sleep.

Marjie Killeen, of Wilmette, who writes the award-winning “Sex and the Suburbs” column recognizes that slumberland has a strong attraction for sleep-deprived North Shore types. Yet, as might be expected, Killeen has lots to say in favor of other bedtime activities.

“Sex is a vital part of life that makes you feel better in all the other areas of your life,” she said. “It makes you a better parent, a better partner, and it makes you excited and tuned in and turned on about living.”

You can learn more (and weigh in with your own opinion on the subject) when Killeen leads a panel of experts in discussion of “Why is Good Sex Important? (Especially Compared to a Good Night’s Sleep),” Sept. 27, at the Wilmette Theatre. Channel 7’s Linda Yu will host the first in a series of three monthly “Sex and the Suburbs” panel discussions. Panelists include Killeen, life coach Andrea Gaines, marriage and family therapist David Klow, clinical social worker Carol Solberg Moss and clinical psychologist Dr. Antoinette Saunders. A cocktail reception with prizes precedes the first show.

Killeen began writing “Sex and the Suburbs” as an offshoot of her midlife-positive “Forty Fabulous” blog, which was an extension of her master’s degree in writing from National Louis University. It was an early highpoint of her career as a 40-something, which she has found surprisingly rich and enjoyable. In addition to writing her column and blog, the former marketing professional also sang with the rock cover-band Midlife Crisis (which later morphed into One Night Stand) and produced a “Five Faves” show for Wilmette’s cable access channel.

“I always thought that by the time you were 40, all the exciting things you were going to do had pretty much already been done,” said Killeen, who has lived 15 years in Wilmette with her husband Liam and two teenage children. “I thought it was time to be responsible and take care of your family and settle down, and that’s true of course, but I’ve also found this time in my life to be kind of a renaissance, not just for me but for a lot of women around me.

“So, I wrote about that.”

It wasn’t long before Killeen began writing about relationships, marriage and sex in her “Forty Fabulous,” and she covers the same topics in her “Sex and the Suburbs” column in Make It Better magazine, with an approach to sex she describes as “entertaining but not dirty.”

“I’m a pretty PG-rated sex columnist,” she said with a laugh. “It’s a community magazine and I live in the community, so I’m careful to keep it tasteful.”

She hopes men will come to the discussions. “I know a lot of men read the magazine, a lot of men read my column and a lot of men have sex,” she said, again with a laugh.

“That would certainly make it more fun,” she added, not that fun is entirely what she’s going for. “I’m sure people are going to be entertained by the discussion, but it’s also going to have substance. We’ll be addressing some serious topics and I hope what we have to offer will be real and meaningful for the audience.”

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